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elaine373

play2day wrote: »

:grouphug:big hugs to you all:grouphug:
I lost my Dad nearly 2 years ago now. It was sudden and unexpected. I would like the chance to tell him that I loved him.

I am sure he knew that, but hugs to you anyway.:grouphug:
Mine is definitely my dear mum who passed away 4 years ago this coming may.I will always miss her but am extremely grateful for having had her as a mother.

Benny24

I lost my Mum four weeks ago quite unexpectedly. I lost my father in 1982 at the age of 9.
I am an only child and I would love to have them both here for just an evening, where we could chat about the things we did, both wrong and right, that made us laugh and cry. And just have one last hug.
x

Anniek1969

For me it would be Mum and Dad they died in 1988 less than four weeks apart, they were together for almost 40 years before they died and I could never imagine either of them being able to live without the other. Although I was only 18 at the time and it has been hard sometimes I wouldn't change they way they went. They were inseperable in life and gave my brother and sister and myself a wonderful life. I am left with loads of happy memories of them both and the family times we had together.

My only regret is that my 3 DD's never got to meet them or experience the love that they would have given them, my in-laws aren't really family people so they don't really have grand parents which is really sad because my Mum and Dad would have loved every second with them.

I don't think a there's a day goes by where I don't think about them or speak to them. Time does make it a bit easier but times like this it does get a bit harder and I still get quite emotional but I have all my happy memeories and they will live with me forever.

consultant31

I wish I hadn't started reading this thread, (I'm struggling to type through my tears) but now that I have I will answer the OP by saying, I miss my Dad, every hour of every day. He passed away in June just 5 weeks after being diagnosed with cancer. He was the most loving, helpful Dad and we will all miss him for ever.

But I truly believe he is still around, he guides me when I'm finding it hard to do a manual job for my Mum (cutting the hedges etc). I'm so sure he's still in the garage, I find myself looking for reasons to go out there to feel his presence. Mum is convinced he still cuddles up to her in the night, she says she can feel the weight of his hand on hers. It's a great comfort.

I also find solace in this poem, and read it regularly:-

You can shed tears that he has gone
or you can smile because he has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back
or you can open your eyes and see all he has left.

Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him
or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember him and only that he’s gone
or you may cherish his memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
or you can do what he would want:

Smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

2007 has been an awful year for us, first I lost my Dad in June, then an aunt in November and finally my Gran last week. 2008 can only get better I hope.

noonesperfect

Benny24 wrote: »

I lost my Mum four weeks ago quite unexpectedly. I lost my father in 1982 at the age of 9.
I am an only child and I would love to have them both here for just an evening, where we could chat about the things we did, both wrong and right, that made us laugh and cry. And just have one last hug.
x

Oh sweet, I'm truly sorry of your loss.

Loads of love and ((((((((hugs)))))))) xxxxxx.

noonesperfect

consultant31 wrote: »

I wish I hadn't started reading this thread, (I'm struggling to type through my tears) but now that I have I will answer the OP by saying, I miss my Dad, every hour of every day. He passed away in June just 5 weeks after being diagnosed with cancer. He was the most loving, helpful Dad and we will all miss him for ever.

But I truly believe he is still around, he guides me when I'm finding it hard to do a manual job for my Mum (cutting the hedges etc). I'm so sure he's still in the garage, I find myself looking for reasons to go out there to feel his presence. Mum is convinced he still cuddles up to her in the night, she says she can feel the weight of his hand on hers. It's a great comfort.

I also find solace in this poem, and read it regularly:-

You can shed tears that he has gone
or you can smile because he has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back
or you can open your eyes and see all he has left.

Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him
or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember him and only that he’s gone
or you may cherish his memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
or you can do what he would want:

Smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

2007 has been an awful year for us, first I lost my Dad in June, then an aunt in November and finally my Gran last week. 2008 can only get better I hope.

I must admit I'm struggling with reading about others' pain, but maybe it will help us all to heal.
Thank you for sharing your poem, it's really lovely. :grouphug: xxxx

Ophie

My greatest wish would be have my son back, even just for one day so he could meet his little sister, and so I could give him a big cuddle. And my Granddad and Gran so they could meet their Grandchildren if they were both there and all my wishes came to fruition.

bright_side

Huge hugs to each and every one of you who is missing someone dear. We lost my darling big sister to cancer on 30th October aged 44. I still can't get my head around it all - the worst thing of all is wanting to make it all better for our mum and knowing I can't possibly do that

Kerilinann

*hugs* to you all.

It would be my grandad. I would do anything just to give him one more hug.

mazza1970

Both my mum and dad. My mum died 27 years ago and my dad almost 5 years ago. New Years Eve 2002 was his last night out before he died. I remember it like it was yesterday, he decided he wanted to go to the club that he normally went to and see all his friends. He was very ill with cancer, and he hadn't been to the club for almost 4 months. We didn't tell his friends we were going, we just turned up, when we walked through the door, everyone saw my dad and stood up to give him a standing ovation as he was a very popular man, he was getting fussed over and everything & every time I went to the bar to get a drink no-one would let me pay as they kept saying thanks for bringing him as they knew he only had a matter of weeks left to live and they knew that would probably be the last time that they saw him. So every year on NYE I always think back to that night as he really enjoyed himself and got very drunk on all the whisky he was getting bought for him:D