Cancelled holiday

mesilva0609

My boyfriend and I booked a holiday together 6 months ago. The holiday was paid for, we each paid for our own ticket. 

He broke up with me a week before our holiday. I dont want to miss out and want to take my sister but he wants the money for the holiday. Is this fair?

My sister is 16 and does not have a job. I cant go alone, im young and inexperienced.

Why should he ask for money, he said he did not want to go on the holiday with me anymore.

surely he does not deserve money from me, my sister and family?

if he cancelled months before i would say yes, we had enough time to save for maybe half of the holiday price.

but one week, how can he expect me to find a friend to buy his ticket ? Or my sister to pay?

eskbanker

It doesn't sound unreasonable to me for him to expect someone to buy his ticket from him, if he's already paid for it and won't be going, but if nobody does, then he'd presumably lose out anyway, so that may be a negotiating point?

Who is the lead passenger on the booking?

Are your parents willing to consider giving or lending you/her some money to save the trip?

Voyager2002

First things first: can you change the name on the booking? How much is the name change fee? If you cannot change the name then it is not worth talking about what is fair.

As for fairness: suppose that he wanted to go with his new friend, and asked for your ticket. Would you expect him to pay you for it?

eskbanker

mesilva0609 said:

My sister is 16 and does not have a job. I cant go alone, im young and inexperienced.

One further thought - you don't say how old you actually are, but are you capable of supervising and looking after a 16 year old on holiday, even if there aren't any legal or contractual impediments to this?

HampshireH

Sounds completely reasonable to me.

If he wanted to take his mate would you expect anything other than a refund or would you be happy gifting him your paid for holiday?

If you are young and inexperienced as a parent I would not want my 2 kids going away together.

Assuming from your post that means abroad but you don't actually say...

YBR

Like previous posters, I feel you should pay him back (minus any name change fees). Could you offer to do this over the next few months - as you had several months to plan for the holiday?

Brie

Sounds like a pillock.  Walk away and book something cheaper with your sis.

LightFlare

Brie said:

Sounds like a pillock.  Walk away and book something cheaper with your sis.

I disagree.

Why doesn’t the OP consider giving her ticket to him to take his brother or a mate for free

Always different from the other direction

Possibly too late to change any passenger names anyway with a week to go

Westin

Voyager2002 said:

First things first: can you change the name on the booking? How much is the name change fee? If you cannot change the name then it is not worth talking about what is fair.

As for fairness: suppose that he wanted to go with his new friend, and asked for your ticket. Would you expect him to pay you for it?

If the OP is canvassing opinions, the I would share the above.  The Ex seeking a payment or contribution seems reasonable, as I am sure the OP would expect if the shoe was on the other foot.

As Voyager2002 points out, check the costs for the change - and if even possible at this late stage.

Remember that it is the lead passenger that holds the cards.  If the Ex is named as the lead passenger, they control the booking. If however it is you as the OP then in theory you could make whatever changes you wanted to.

saajan_12

Best would be a negotiation for part of the ticket cost. 

He doesn't have to give you his ticket, which may mean you won't want to go.. so what's it worth to you? Certainly shouldn't be free else he could equally get your ticket and go with a friend.

You don't have to buy his for full price, else you could equally buy a new ticket for full price for sister (not withstanding availability and price changes since it was booked). 

So somewhere in the middle makes sense. 

bagand96

It's been mentioned above, but the only person who can change the name on a booking is the lead passenger.  If that's the boyfriend, you're going to have to have him on side to do it.  If it's yourself, you can just do it (offering no view on the rights and wrongs of that - you know he wants his share reimbursing)

Have you investigated whether it's even possible to change the name this close to travel?  It will depend exactly what's been booked and who with.  An alternative, is there a cheap flight available you could book your sister on?  You go on the holiday, he doesn't and his place goes vacant.  Your sister hasn't taken his place, she's arranged her own flight. Technically she'd be using his hotel space though - which. again is back to the debate of whether the ex should be reimbursed or not