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Buying a house with Mum
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Is anyone able to give more advice about the OPs original question which is, presuming they have thought about all the points referenced above, can they get a mortgage without Mum’s name needing to be on it If she is a part owner of the house?All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.
Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.1 -
bobster2 said:RHemmings said:I note the mention of deprivation of assets by @Jemma01 above. Clarification by the OP indicates that the OP's mum will not lose any personal assets, except that OP's mum's assets will be changed to be one third of a more expensive property instead of all of a cheaper property.
In terms of paying for care costs in the future, I believe that a house where the person needing care resides but where there are other relatives living cannot be forced to be sold to pay for care-home fees, and that the value of that home cannot be included in calculations for how much the person needing care should pay for that care. https://www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/care/paying-for-care/paying-for-a-care-home/deprivation-of-assets/
However, if a ‘qualifying relative’ also lives in the property or it is classed as their ‘main home’ even if they don’t live there all the time, then the value of the property cannot be included in the financial assessment and it cannot be sold to pay for care home fees.
Going all the way back to @Jemma01's post, from what I can see now, co-owning a house with an elderly relative who may later go into care has the risk that the council may come after the elderly relative's part of the house to pay for care fees.
From my earlier links, there are solutions to this. E.g. remortgaging that part of the house to buy out the elderly parent, various forms of equity withdrawal, etc., to pay for care. But, it does have to be taken seriously. If the elderly parent went into care and the children couldn't afford to take over the parent's part ownership of the house, that could be messy. Note: The OP here has said that they were planning to care for their parent at home - so maybe this doesn't apply. Unless care needs become more complex than can be provided for at home.0 -
Browntoa said:As above, "mandatory disregard" is mainly expected to be a surviving spouse or partner . The only exception would be a sufficiently disabled relative ( itself depending on evaluation by the local council)
Sheltered accommodation nearby for her is a much better option and a cash gift used to assist your purchase if still needed or purely as a gift ( subject to the 7 year tax tapering) .
If that was the case then if she died within 7 years, then 100% of the gift would be counted back in to IHT calculations. Tapering only applies in a very small number of cases, mainly where the gift is very large ( > £325K)
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elsien said:Is anyone able to give more advice about the OPs original question which is, presuming they have thought about all the points referenced above, can they get a mortgage without Mum’s name needing to be on it If she is a part owner of the house?OP/mum really needs to speak to a mortgage broker for up-to-date policies of all lenders.But my out of date understanding is that it's unlikely. In the event of mortgage arrears/default, the lender would want to repossess, and that's all but impossible if there is a joint owner who is not on the mortgage and hence who has not themselves defaulted.2
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elsien said:Is anyone able to give more advice about the OPs original question which is, presuming they have thought about all the points referenced above, can they get a mortgage without Mum’s name needing to be on it If she is a part owner of the house?
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elsien said:Is anyone able to give more advice about the OPs original question which is, presuming they have thought about all the points referenced above, can they get a mortgage without Mum’s name needing to be on it If she is a part owner of the house?0
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km1500 said:elsien said:Is anyone able to give more advice about the OPs original question which is, presuming they have thought about all the points referenced above, can they get a mortgage without Mum’s name needing to be on it If she is a part owner of the house?If true, I stand corrected.But I strongly suspect not true.1
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propertyrental said:km1500 said:elsien said:Is anyone able to give more advice about the OPs original question which is, presuming they have thought about all the points referenced above, can they get a mortgage without Mum’s name needing to be on it If she is a part owner of the house?If true, I stand corrected.But I strongly suspect not true.
Which of the owners are liable to repay the loan is another question, but even if mum is not "on the mortgage", she would have to sign the deed in order to agree to her interest in the property being repossessed if the kids default on the repayments.0 -
km1500 said:elsien said:Is anyone able to give more advice about the OPs original question which is, presuming they have thought about all the points referenced above, can they get a mortgage without Mum’s name needing to be on it If she is a part owner of the house?
A family member having a financial interest in the property wthout being on the mortgage is more than likely a non starter. Simply too many complexities to make it worth the bother.0 -
Thanks for the replies.
I have to say that I’m still confused and it doesn’t sound straightforward at all. I suspect that if my husband and I were also cash buyers it may be more straightforward.
Just to clarify that my Mum has no care needs currently. We don’t need her money, we are already in a house that meets our needs. It just wouldn’t accommodate her as well so rather than her buying a tiny flat near us, we thought a larger house would mean more company for her (and childcare for us although she has always helped a lot with our children) and ultimately we could be there to care for her if needed although I realise from personal experience that sometimes care/nursing homes are necessary.I’ve suggested to her that she speaks to a solicitor for some advice and I will speak to our mortgage broker. If it’s all too complicated then we will look at flats for her instead.0
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