Probate/estate conundrum......

swissfil

Hi all
My Mum recently passed away aged 82. Probate has been granted last week. She had collected quite a lot of gold jewellery over the yrs and months before she died gave some gold to my son to have a signet ring made for his 21st bday which he did - and managed to show her literally weeks before she passed.
My brother also has a son who is currently 17, he is now requesting that he take some gold from the estate before it is divided up between us, so that his son can also have a ring made when he is 21, which I think is what my Mum would have done anyway.
I think that his son's ring should be made from the gold that he inherits (my brother) and not from my share as well. Am I being selfish or am I creating a storm in a teacup. We are prob talking total value £1500 so it would be costing me £750 effectively.
I may also add, although I'm not sure this should sway any decision, that he lives in a £2.5M house, I live in a £250k flat, and he earns about 4 times what I do.

Value any opinions before this turns into a family feud!!

Thx in advance.....

BooJewels

If your son hadn't had his ring made, you and your brother would each be inheriting more gold than you now will be, so your brother has already effectively contributed towards your son's ring - so if that's something your Mum would have done for the second grandson when the time came, then it seems pretty fair for it to come from the estate before it's divided up. 

Normally, I'm a strong advocate of sticking to what the Will stipulates - but it seems to be a modest adjustment to make to be fair in honouring what your Mum would have liked done and being a nice keepsake for both grandsons.  It feels to me - knowing my own family and what they'd do - that it would be a nice gesture to make in your Mum's memory.  Mentioning your brother's house value and salary is totally not the point.  

Flugelhorn

I agree with @BooJewels - I am sure your mum would have wanted the 2 grandsons to have the same and she would probably hope that you would contribute towards this happening

I was the only beneficiary of my mother's will so it was easier but in the preceding years she had given gifts to her elder grandchild for graduation / 21st birthday, younger grandchild would have missed out on both of these so I paid them out of the estate before I got it 

gwynlas

It would seem fair for your nephew to have ring made fro his grandmothers gold rather than his fathers and given old jewellery is only given scrap value anyway this is not going to take a lot out of the estate. You might be rewarded in another way yet to be seen.

Sea_Shell

Let him have a ring made from the estates gold.   It's not worth kicking up a fuss over £750 and it sounds like she would have gifted this herself if she'd lived longer, so you're no worse off really.

Newly_retired

Sea Shell is right. It is not worth falling out over.

Cloth_of_Gold

Newly_retired said:

Sea Shell is right. It is not worth falling out over.

I agree too.

swissfil

Thx all for your comments. I agree with the general consensus now.

Gers

Creating a family feud over £750 seems rather petty. Your mother would have wanted her other grandson to be treated the same. Having a ring 'from' granny is more emotional than one from 'dad. Keep the peace in the family, keep the peace in your heart too. It's a small price to pay.