Left relationship due to mental abuse regret taking 1/3

furby-2003

I was pushed and pushed to breaking point. My ex and I wasn't married and he was not about to give up our £240k 3 bedroom house for no-one.  Our son was 11 when it all started.  He would not sell up or move out and offered 60k and that was his final.offer. I was scared to push this with a solicitor as I couldn't afford one and it would make the process even longer. I'd have to stay and here his rants about me to his family and blanking me every day.  We were joint on the house and I really regret not pushing it but felt I was cornered.  Is there anything I can do or is it all to late now my names off the deeds and I've left and had the 60k. We now life away from my sons friends a d school and has now lost contact with them. I have to take him to school.now as it's to far and it's left me really struggling financially 

elsien

Is your ex paying child maintenance?

I can’t see any way of going back and getting any more money from the house when it’s all signed and sealed. however, you haven’t actually said what equity was in the house at the point that you split up which is more relevant than the total value of the property.

furby-2003

It was totally paid outright. He will be liable for child maintenance until july 2023 or possibly 2024 depending on his self assessment. He doesn't have a job and lived off property rental but has sold them in march 2023 so is currently according to sources living off the cash from the investments. meaning it will eventually be a nil assessment. 

gwynlas

Hindsight is a wonderful thing if he is only liable for child support upto this year then this all happened 7 years ago. Did you sign legal documentation at the time?

Spendless

Did you buy the property together or did one of you own it before the other came along or  one of  you sell a property to buy this one together.

I think it's probably unlikely you can receive any more now.

furby-2003

gwynlas said:

Hindsight is a wonderful thing if he is only liable for child support upto this year then this all happened 7 years ago. Did you sign legal documentation at the time?

I left 18 months ago. Hes only paying child support up to a point as he won't have a job or income from rent after selling his property and is living on the money from the property he sold so they will class it as no income. Yes I did but I did also say to his solicitor at the time I wasn't happy about the outcome and I still have the email. I had to sign my name off the deeds otherwise he would not have given me any money and i couldn't buy my house. 

furby-2003

Spendless said:

Did you buy the property together or did one of you own it before the other came along or  one of  you sell a property to buy this one together.

I think it's probably unlikely you can receive any more now.

We bought it together in 2007. joint owners. He lived with his parents and i had a council house so no house was sold to pay for ours. 

gwynlas

I think that you should talk to Womens Aid as you have outlined coercion which continues if he's made himself income less in order to avoid paying child support.
If there is no legal recourse then at least you now know him for what he is and an tell others including his family that he cheated you out of your share of equity and is possibly an unfit father