Is son living in home illegal

Marcon

longwalks1 said:

Thanks all - son struggles with stress and telling people where to go and everything’s getting on top of him.  We’ve told him to block her number and tell her to leave him alone if she turns up at the door. 

This last week has been hell.  Lost count the number of people coming out the woodwork asking ‘what are you going to do with the house’, ‘dad told me that I could have this or that’

son has even been told that he shouldn’t be insured on his late dads car and using it, even though it’s at the address it’s been at since new.  One family ‘friend’ has even told him he’s committing theft by using it until probate is granted.  Please tell me this is factually incorrect. 

Do you think the time might have come to take some properly informed professional advice, based on a full understanding of all the facts? That would carry considerably more weight than responses from random strangers on a public website, none of whom has access to all the relevant background.

pjs493

Just to add here regarding the car. Make sure your step-son has also changed the named keeper on the V5 and re-taxed the car so it's completely road legal. It's probably worth the brothers thinking about who is likely to keep the car going forward so that they don't need to keep changing the V5 details. Regarding tax, if someone has used the govt 'Tell Us Once' service, the DVLA will have cancelled the driving licence etc of the deceased and will automatically send a tax refund to the person who completed the 'Tell Us Once' form. If there is a will I believe it is also permissible for the executor to register the V5 etc in their name while the estate is sorted out.

My husband died unexpectedly last year and I had to search through lots of paperwork to find the V5 so I could change our car into my name and tax it to keep it road legal. It was one of those pieces of paper that had been filed in a safe place and then forgotten where that safe place was (ended up finding it in the safe rather than with random car related paperwork). In my case with insurance, I was a named driver. I called the insurance company, they updated their records, and the policy continues until renewal (this may have been simple for us because we were married rather than it being a son driving a father's car).

thegreenone

I would strongly suggest that one of the brothers start a Letters of Administration application asap .... before one of the vultures do.

longwalks1

Marcon said:

Do you think the time might have come to take some properly informed professional advice, based on a full understanding of all the facts? That would carry considerably more weight than responses from random strangers on a public website, none of whom has access to all the relevant background.

Thanks Marcon - it was more seeing if others had experienced similar issues, and what direction to possibly take.  The overwhelming advice of telling the vultures to ‘back off’ was in my head anyway, just wanted to know if it was the general consensus.

We’ve had a pretty stressed 12 months and I can honestly say the random strangers on this public website have proven invaluable, especially in this sub-forum.  

Thank you everyone who’s helped 

longwalks1

thegreenone said:

I would strongly suggest that one of the brothers start a Letters of Administration application asap .... before one of the vultures do.

Thank you thegreenone - as me and my partner have just finished a successful IHT and probate application for MIL, we’re going to help start a Letters of Administration this week for them both so it’s one less thing they have to tackle right now.