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Watty's Awakening
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Awww … Well done. 👏 I hope making contact with your old counsellor hasn’t been too ‘mud stirring’ for you but does make you feel like you have made a step in the right direction to help you and you can relax a bit now.
If she’s miles and miles away, maybe after the first session you could do remote sessions?
KKAs at 15.12.25:
- When bought house £315,995 mortgage debt and end date at start = October 2039 - now £227,385
- OPs to mortgage = £12,822 Estd. interest saved = £6,166 to date
Fixed rate 3.85% ends October 2030
Read 79 books of target 52 in 2025, as @ 24th December
Produce tracker: £453 of £300 in 2025
Watch your thoughts, they become your words.
Watch your words, they become your actions.Watch your actions, they become your reality.7 -
That is what I am hoping, yes. I've also reached out to my GP as well. My GP practice is not great and I'm not keen to go on meds but I think this needs dealing with.KajiKita said:Awww … Well done. 👏 I hope making contact with your old counsellor hasn’t been too ‘mud stirring’ for you but does make you feel like you have made a step in the right direction to help you and you can relax a bit now.
If she’s miles and miles away, maybe after the first session you could do remote sessions?
KKMade it to mortgage free but what a muddle that became
In the event the proverbial hits the fan then co-habitees are better stashing their cash than being mortgage free !!7 -
it might also be a wee but easier since she has met pph and will have formed her own opinion. I'm sure she won't be able to discuss this but it might give you a bit shorthand rather than having to go over the whole thing from the start
(I recently saw emdr as a therapy, didn't realise it existed, lots of different types out there. This one doesn'tseem to favour lengthy rehashing)
Hope it helps you regain your equilibrium
Dxxx22: 3🏅 4⭐ 23: 5🏅 6 ⭐ 24 1🏅 2⭐ 25 🏅 🥈2⭐ Never save something for a special occasion. Every day is a special occasion. The diff between what you were yesterday and what you will be tomorrow is what you do today Well organised clutter is still clutter - Joshua Becker If you aren't already using something you won't start using it more by shoving it in a cupboard- AJMoney The barrier standing between you & what youre truly capable of isnt lack of info, ideas or techniques. The secret is 'do it'5 -
@Watty1 my GP practice is rubbish. I've slowly worked my way through meeting every Dr though over the years I've been with them (I don't go much so it's taken me a decade 🤣) and I've found one I really like who actually listens. And one I can tolerate because he will listen if I say, no I don't want to take that/ do that, enough. Maybe you could swap to a different Dr or try a new practice?
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Thank you @daisy_1571 I have been reading up on EMDR and you might have made a great suggestion and have found a local practitioner so I am going to give her a call after Christmas. Little point in reaching out now - although - I did contact my GP and have mental health practitioner appointment booked on 29th
Now I have admitted to myself there is a problem I can also admit I feel awful and overwhelmed. Fortunately we have a very quiet Christmas planned and there is food in the house and meals planned so all good.
Made it to mortgage free but what a muddle that became
In the event the proverbial hits the fan then co-habitees are better stashing their cash than being mortgage free !!4 -
This is the scary bit - you are stepping out into an abyss and you’re not sure if there is a path there to carry you over it …
But you have all of us.
You have VNM.
You have RL friends.
You have RL resources.
All will be well, I promise.Sending hugs, soothing ones x
KKAs at 15.12.25:
- When bought house £315,995 mortgage debt and end date at start = October 2039 - now £227,385
- OPs to mortgage = £12,822 Estd. interest saved = £6,166 to date
Fixed rate 3.85% ends October 2030
Read 79 books of target 52 in 2025, as @ 24th December
Produce tracker: £453 of £300 in 2025
Watch your thoughts, they become your words.
Watch your words, they become your actions.Watch your actions, they become your reality.5
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