Christmas Card Etiquette

welshbabe88

Hi - a bit late for this year - but...

I like sending cards - some handmade - but am also mindful not to just keep sending regardless - currently do about 70 and get 40+ back (but some are to kiddies or older folk that I don't expect a return card from).

I was wondering what is the way of handling some people that now notify that they are stopping doing cards and donating to charity instead? 
Do they still get a card - or do you just stop sending too? 
I have stopped with one person - but another friend I think I'll continue - but wondered what the 'correct' way would be?

Cloth_of_Gold

Why can’t people donate to charity and send a card?  Personally, I like sending cards and although I also like receiving them you don’t give to receive, so if I was going to send someone a card I would do so whether they sent me one or not. 

Katiehound

and personally I don't like getting cards! What a waste of postage for starters- different story if we are talking about birthday cards. One friend has hers sitting in a pile- they never get displayed!

 I have asked folk not to send them... but some persist!  I try to phone the people (during the year too) and email very many regularly . I am happy to send Jacquie Lawson e-cards & to receive them- they are not after all, a bit of tat!

Sorry, I am not suggesting your handmade cards are tat! One friend always sends a card that is printed from one of her watercolours and I sometimes frame those.

Brie

The cards we get are from my OH's 4 cousins, a couple of mutual friends and then my friends and workmates.  I think most of them are unnecessary and certainly wouldn't want to have someone feel pressured to send them given the cost alone.  I'm happy to post a greeting online - either on face book or by emailing.  

What I do really hate though is cards that are posted without a return address.  Nearly 6 years after moving in to this house we have still got a card for the previous owners - nothing we can do as there's no return address.  Likewise we got a card for MiL who died over a year back.  Can't tell this old friend of hers that she's dead because there's no address.  Really makes me sad.

welshbabe88

Thanks for the feedback.  I enjoy doing card - and am quite happy not to receive one in return.

I get your comment about return addresses Brie - something for me to remember.

I like stringing up my cards received as part of the Xmas decorations.

Brie

fyi - i used to print labels with the addresses I was sending to and a set with the return address.  Saved my hand from cramping up when I used to help MiL do her big pile of cards!!

Torry_Quine

Every card I send has my return address on the back. I have discovered that someone has died or moved that way.

Abbafan1972

Well l used to send a lot of Xmas cards out but I stopped years ago because of the postage costs. I send cards to my work colleagues, ve all work from home but went out for a meal together last -week, so was able to hand deliver them and just had to post the one, due to her not being able to make it.

I send a few cards to the neighbours but don't display them I got rid of my card holders, I just put my family cards up. I actually think they clutter the place up. They just end up in the recycling afterwards anyway. 

Funnily enough I got a card from someone I knew years ago this year saying we rust catch up is in the new year but there's no contact details, I used to have her details, but my address book got last years ago, so can’t send a reply. She even knew something that happened recently, which I only wrote on facebook and she's not a friend of mine on facebook. So It'S mind boggling.

Cloth_of_Gold

welshbabe88 said:

Thanks for the feedback.  I enjoy doing card - and am quite happy not to receive one in return.

I get your comment about return addresses Brie - something for me to remember.

I like stringing up my cards received as part of the Xmas decorations.

So do we. You can hardly do that with an e-card or a Facebook post can you? It’s also ice that someone has made the effort. 

welshbabe88

Cloth_of_Gold said:

welshbabe88 said:

I like stringing up my cards received as part of the Xmas decorations.

So do we. You can hardly do that with an e-card or a Facebook post can you? It’s also ice that someone has made the effort. 

Yes - I've graduated to that sticky stripe stuff now - and I also have some tiny pegs to hold them firm.

Cloth_of_Gold

welshbabe88 said:

Cloth_of_Gold said:

welshbabe88 said:

I like stringing up my cards received as part of the Xmas decorations.

So do we. You can hardly do that with an e-card or a Facebook post can you? It’s also ice that someone has made the effort. 

Yes - I've graduated to that sticky stripe stuff now - and I also have some tiny pegs to hold them firm.

We just stand them on ledges (some with a little bit of sellotape on the back to help them stay up) or on furniture.  It just makes the place look a bit more festive.