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Please help - need to change my personal circ but debt too high

anni_ · 2023-10-16 19:45:04

hello, I have been with my current partner for 10 years. We have two children together. He has untreated depression and it has become clear I need to urgently leave for the emotional well being of myself and my children. To be totally honest the current situation is emotionally abusive to me. We own a house and the…

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enthusiasticsaver Posts: 16,292 Ambassador

17 October 2023 at 5:27PM

The soa shows on your current income with the level of expenditure you have even if you default on the debts and pay nothing you are still over £600 short so that means if your ex pays nothing you still cannot afford all your outgoings. If you can cut cable/child costs and groceries would he agree to maybe £500 a month in interim child maintenance? That still leaves him £2k to rent somewhere. Your commuting costs are high as is car insurance and parking so that is one area I would address. Breaking expenditure into priority and non priority will help.

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