Worried sick, put in impossible situation

deannagone

Totally agree.  

Skiddaw1

Thirded.

OP, I can imagine that, with your history and your health issues, your confidence and self-esteem are probably at rock bottom. It must seem very, very daunting but you can do this (and make a wonderful new life and future for yourself). I think you ideally need an objective third party (a friend or family member if there's no professional available) who can help you to break things down into manageable chunks and generally support you through the process.

There'll come a point, I promise, when you'll look back and be proud of everything you've accomplished. 

RAS

Hi, find the new local Facebook or WhatsApp group. You may be able to "book" some stuff that people don't want, or find someone who will keep it until you arrive. Accept anything, you can always give it away later. People may also loan you an airbed, sleeping bag or bedding, and maybe a garden chair. 

Do you have a small rucsac or a shopping trolley for moving stuff? 

Try and get one utility knife, a mug, batch of cutlery and plate. Plus a small saucepan, cheapest Wilko measuring jug and a wooden spoon.

It's daunting but as new home owners we started with a mattress, ancient cooker that had sat in a friend's garden and a couple of chair units the boss was going to take to the tip. 

It's challenging but if the location is right for you, you will find things that work.

BungalowBel

You need something to sit on, something to sleep on and something to cook on (and with).

Your utilities can be connected the day you move in.

I hope you enjoy your new home.

waveneygnome

I'm not sure if you are religious - but regardless of faith, or no faith - local churches are great sources of information/can tap into information, and may be able to reach out to members in their community to ask for help/donations of items.  It could also be a way of meeting/integrating into your new area. 

breaking_free

Agree with all the others. When I moved into my first home I brought with me a camping chair, my laptop and a microwave. I had no mattress, no table, no TV...you  name it, I didn't have it. As a foreigner, I had no local family or friends to help out and I'd recently escaped a physically abusive relationship so I was feeling pretty fragile, but I did it! 

I had a car, so over the course of several months I used Freecycle and Freegle to scrounge every item going from miles around.

I hired a van and drove over 100 miles to collect a sofa and some other furniture from a work colleague who was clearing out her deceased parent's estate; she also gave me a load of kitchenware, which I very gratefully accepted. As I continued to l live in my 4-walls-and-nothing-else home I gradually replaced all those hand-me-down-items with ones I'd selected and paid for (but to this day I still have lots of those original items).

Another thing: I joined a meetup group so I wasn't just existing, but was socialising (a must for mental health).

Yes it is daunting. Yes it means uprooting and feeling insecure. BUT those feelings go away as you get settled - they really do.
Wishing you all the luck in the world.

deannagone

Try searching on facebook, for your local area, the next area, the next bigger town and gradually work up to the County.  I am sure you will find some kind of facebook page connected to the area you are moving to, or close by. Post on there, introducing yourself and explaining the situation, ask if anyone has old items they don't need.  When I moved 150 miles with nothing, I found a charity and managed to get a bed, which was my absolute first need on day of arrival.  But please look at getting some support, a social worker, look at advocate services for the county you are moving to.   Google "<county> support for homeless" same for whatever disability you have. etc  Or look for a country wide support organisation for that disability and ask them to help you find the support you need. 

As I said Scope can be quite helpful.

Ratkin007

Wishing you all the best and it is true, it may be difficult to begin with but will get better. I know it's not the question, but as you are on benefits I assume you will need benefits to cover the rent. I imagine it will be the housing element of universal credit which  I don't know anything about, but in the days of housing benefit, you had to be living in the new property before they would pay it. You may therefore need to seek advise on housing costs. 

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@gf3978114 an update please.

Tiglet2

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@gf3978114 an update please.

Or is it @DonnaJerrily ?