Lavender plants for a grave

soexhausted

Hi, apologies for perhaps a very basic question. My gardening knowledge is very limited.

I am after a lavender plant with, in order or preference:

* Involves minimal care (as to be planted on a grave) - it may not be possible to water it weekly for example

* lasts most seasons (or as many as possible)

* Has a strong scent

Is there one that you folks would recommend, please?

Thank you

Dustyevsky

Probably the least fussy and most cold-hardy lavenders are some of the easiest to find; such as L. angustifolia 'Hidcote' or 'Munstead.' Avoid the French (L. dentata) and Spanish (L. stoechas) types. No lavender lives indefinitely, but you can prolong their lives with careful light pruning in late summer. You may not be able to alter the soil entirely, but making it free draining with grit helps. Don't replace it with light compost or the plant may get blown loose in bad weather.

twopenny

What Dusty says.
I'd say hidcote is the most compact.
You will need to trim it. Spring and autumn will keep it really nice. Autumn will keep it ok.
Never cut into the brown wood! Cut back the green to where you see 2 or 3 proper shoots.
If you take the flower stems off when they finish flowering you will have flowers all summer into autumn. But if you don't it won't make many new ones.

But it's a good hardy plant. Grit or sand will be loved by it.

YoungBlueEyes

If this is in a graveyard, be careful not to plant it somewhere the council mower will catch it. Are you planting it in the grass of the grave, or the pot in the headstone?

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@soexhausted have you already done this now ?
The post above mine asks a pertinent question because a shrub like this will prefer to be in the ground, pots dry out far too quickly and you'll waste a lot of money on this little project if not careful.