Rent for adult children

Spendless

The reason you lose housing benefit is precisely because an adult offspring is expected to contribute from benefits or rent. In your case you're charging her £2 more than the amount you've lost - however you see it in your head as £30 bills plus £25 rent. Your daughter is comfortable with this amount, if you also are then leave it. I wouldn't be look at charging her less. 

I totally understand what you're saying about money to get to auditions. My daughter is also a drama student. Is she making inroads into this though, very few get on the West End or land a soap op role. Is she looking at things like working  as a performer in a holiday camp or at a tourist attraction  in the UK or abroad? I should imagine the holiday industry auditions around now as their season will probably start from Easter onwards. 

Last year between drama courses mine worked March-September for a large entertainment company as an actor. Fabulous experience and she's only 19 years old.    

I know several acting graduates, who moved closer to or stayed around  London, house share and work jobs at FOH in theatres or teach at extra curricular drama groups on evenings/weekends or have hospitality jobs which give them flexibility to also audition for roles.  

diystarter7

Hi
One of our adult kids lives with us they have two places they rent out. They volunteered to pay 300 a month we said if anthing 200, we settled on 250. They also pay for the fibre broadband and massive sky pack - kid has a very big double room and extra wardrobes in spare rooms. 

If our kid was earning what yours was - 200 is reasonable - we live in London - we only accept the money as it makes them feel kid is helping out and 250 is helpful especially with gas/elec price
Thanks

JReacher1

Working two jobs and no complaining about paying you rent shows you have raised a daughter you can be justifiably proud of. 

I think what you’re charging seems extremely fair and when your daughter becomes an A list acting star you’ll come across very well in this chapter of her autobiography 😀

billy2shots

I would charge more. 

£55 a week is not preparing your child for the real world. Having 78% of her wages left after bills is not normal. 

The money would be saved in a separate account without their knowledge. 

When my child is looking to rent or put down a deposit, the saved money would be given back to them. 

Hopefully this saved money will financially aid them but will only be a small help compared to learning to budget. 

stuartp2000

I think that sounds very fair, my daughter will be 18 in Mach and I lose my council tax SPD but not much else will change.
I have made it clear for the last year or so that I will charge her 25% of her income for rent and food when she works (she has a part time job now getting 250 a month but I said from 18 onwards)

I think it teaches them how to budget and that there are costs of housing etc.

That said unbeknown to her I will put the money into an savings account so she will have a nice lump sum when she moves out.

JReacher1

billy2shots said:

I would charge more. 

£55 a week is not preparing your child for the real world. Having 78% of her wages left after bills is not normal. 

The money would be saved in a separate account without their knowledge. 

When my child is looking to rent or put down a deposit, the saved money would be given back to them. 

Hopefully this saved money will financially aid them but will only be a small help compared to learning to budget. 

I think you’re  being unnecessarily harsh. She has lived away at uni for three years so is aware of the costs of not living at home. As the OP has explained she needs a high disposable income due to her career choice and the requirement to travel. Also she has a large overdraft to pay off. 

Mojisola

Pollycat said:

Why not have a chat with your daughter to see what she thinks.
Explain why you're charging what you are.
It can then set a precedent for when your son gets a job.

Do this to build on the experience she gained while living away from home as a student - get out all the household bills and work through them together so that she fully understands what it costs to run the house.

We didn't expect our children to wash their own clothes and cook their own meals separately when they lived at home - we expected them to muck in and do their share of the chores that needed doing to keep the household running, just like we did.

pinkshoes

I would charge her £100 a week all inclusive. 

That way you can cover the £52 lost in benefits due to her working, another £28 to cover food and bills, then put £20 a week into a savings account for her, so if she stays at home for a year you can then give her just over £1000 as a deposit for a rental. 

That works out at about £400 a month all inclusive, and I very much doubt she would be able to live that cheaply on her own.

DE_612183

Mine have both just finished uni and got full time jobs - £350 a month which is about one quarter of their taxed take home pay - plus they do a lot of eating out anyway.

I'm happy with that and so are they.

Rob5342

billy2shots said:

I would charge more. 

£55 a week is not preparing your child for the real world. Having 78% of her wages left after bills is not normal. 

The money would be saved in a separate account without their knowledge. 

When my child is looking to rent or put down a deposit, the saved money would be given back to them. 

Hopefully this saved money will financially aid them but will only be a small help compared to learning to budget. 

Surely it would be better for the child to prepare themselves for the real world by saving that money in their own account?