Ex wife won't collect her belongings.

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My ex-moved out of the family home nearly 2 years ago, but hasn't collected any of her belongings. I asked her about 6 months ago (verbal and through text messages) to collect, them, and have been doing this regularly. The sake of the house is dye in the next 2 -3 weeks and I'm still telling her that she needs to collect it, as I don't want to spend my last week sorting her stuff out. I've asked both her and her parents to take it, as well as suggesting that she puts it into storage, but am met with excuses. I've now threatened to throw the lot in a skip if it isn't removed in the next 7 days.
Could any advise on where I stand? As some of her stuff may have some value, but it seems more sentimental.
Thanks
Could any advise on where I stand? As some of her stuff may have some value, but it seems more sentimental.
Thanks
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Anything small just gather it up and put it in a box with her name on. It won't kill you having to pack one extra box.
Anything big, just give her a deadline date to collect it by, then if she doesn't collect it, either sell it and put the money aside for her when she asks for it, or freecycle it if it has no value.
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If you don't yet have an order then maybe a formal letter reminding her of the house sale and warning that she needs to collect anything she wants by [date] as you will be clearing the hosue in order to give vacant posession so anything that you don't want to keep will be assumed to be abandoned and will be disposed of before completion.
As others have said, the other option is to bos it up (black bin bags inside boxes if possible) and deliver to her.
Pocket the money from the sale and if she ever asks what happened to her stuff, tell her you gave it all to charity and there is no money.
It sounds like you have made a good faith effort to communicate with your ex and her parents about the belongings left at the family home. You have given them ample time to collect the items and have offered solutions such as storage.
It's important to understand that you have no legal obligation to keep or store your ex's belongings. However, it would be advisable to check with a lawyer regarding any potential legal issues that might arise from disposing of her belongings. They can advise you on the best course of action based on the specific laws.
You could also consider reaching out to a neutral third party, such as a mediator, to help facilitate a conversation and agreement regarding the belongings.
It's worth noting that it is also important to approach this situation with empathy and understanding towards your ex, as some of the belongings may have sentimental value for her.
Lastly, it's advisable to document all the communication you've had with your ex and her parents, and keep copies of any text messages or emails, in case there are any disputes or legal issues that may arise in the future.