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MikeJXE

You need to chill, it's your mothers house and her choice. Try to encourage her instead of pushing. 

Anonymous868

MikeJXE said:

You need to chill, it's your mothers house and her choice. Try to encourage her instead of pushing. 

Yes, it is her choice what she chooses to do/not do (and providing no-one else is impacted by her action :: I quite smply don't care anymore what she does)...

My concern however is if her failure-to-act could result in the people who live in the house nextdoor being at risk of physical harm / damage occuring to their property?

(As my mother's choices have already caused alot of concern & disruption to them)

Boat_to_Bolivia

OP I'm not sure the Marriage, relationships and families is the best place for your query.
Try the In My Home or Insurance boards.

MikeJXE

Us old people get like that thankfully not me. Losing your father was a huge shock to her and maybe she don't care anymore, can't see the point perhaps. My sister 84 lost her husband of 63 years and as far as she was concerned life was over. She didn't do anything about anything and 9 months later decided to go to sleep and not wake up. that's what she wanted 

sevenhills

Anonymous868 said:

My mother is quite simply 'not right in the head'.

Following the death of my father (3-years ago) she has chosen to simply not bother with/have any regard for her legal duties as a citizen.

How old is your mother, is it dementia or just a slow loss of mental reasoning?
I have a 95 year old relative that is losing his ability to reason, but his daughter has mental health issues and unable to take control.
Perhaps you need to take control?

MalMonroe

MikeJXE said:

*Us old people get like that thankfully not me. Losing your father was a huge shock to her and maybe she don't care anymore, can't see the point perhaps. My sister 84 lost her husband of 63 years and as far as she was concerned life was over. She didn't do anything about anything and 9 months later decided to go to sleep and not wake up. that's what she wanted 

*No, no 'we' don't. Everyone is different. I'm old-ish - 72 - and haven't 'got' like 'that' either. Age doesn't excuse anything.

This OP's mum sounds as if she needs some help.

But it's her property and her business and unless she actually harms anyone else, does anything illegal or asks for help, there isn't a lot that can be done. 

Anonymous868

sevenhills said:

Anonymous868 said:

My mother is quite simply 'not right in the head'.

Following the death of my father (3-years ago) she has chosen to simply not bother with/have any regard for her legal duties as a citizen.

How old is your mother, is it dementia or just a slow loss of mental reasoning?
I have a 95 year old relative that is losing his ability to reason, but his daughter has mental health issues and unable to take control.
Perhaps you need to take control?

She's in her late 60s.

Over the past 3-years I tried to offer help (repeatedly), but she chooses to just ignore it all - And so for my own personal mental-wellbeing I am now done trying to help her.

And in regards to me 'taking control', I personally am not the owner of the property thus cannot speak to the insurance company on her behalf (without her consent) / Nor can I myself hire & pay a trades-person to go to the property, drain all the water & replace all the damaged structures (the entire ceiling/staircare/floors), unless she consents + pays the cost of all that work.

MalMonroe

Anonymous868 said:

MikeJXE said:

You need to chill, it's your mothers house and her choice. Try to encourage her instead of pushing. 

Yes, it is her choice what she chooses to do/not do (and providing no-one else is impacted by her action :: I quite smply don't care anymore what she does)...

My concern however is if her failure-to-act could result in the people who live in the house nextdoor being at risk of physical harm / damage occuring to their property?

(As my mother's choices have already caused alot of concern & disruption to them)

If your Mum's neighbours are at all concerned, they will have to step up and take appropriate action of their own. Sounds like your Mum can't be reasoned with but if the neighbours take some kind (any kind) of action she will have to do something. 

sevenhills

Anonymous868 said:

sevenhills said:

Anonymous868 said:

My mother is quite simply 'not right in the head'.

Following the death of my father (3-years ago) she has chosen to simply not bother with/have any regard for her legal duties as a citizen.

How old is your mother, is it dementia or just a slow loss of mental reasoning?
I have a 95 year old relative that is losing his ability to reason, but his daughter has mental health issues and unable to take control.
Perhaps you need to take control?

And in regards to me 'taking control', I personally am not the owner of the property thus cannot speak to the insurance company on her behalf (without her consent) / Nor can I myself hire & pay a trades-person to go to the property

But is she mentally capable in the rest of her life?
If she is, then being sectioned is not appropriate.

sammyjammy

Insurance company are unlikely to pay out anyway if the property has been empty for some time!