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Food Shopping in modern times
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jacko220 said:Pollycat said:jacko220 said:Pollycat said:jacko220 said:Rather a sensitive topic, would you call £700 for two people enough for only food shopping, I think I know the answer, however, I would like people's comments by the way this was in 2014.
It seems clear to me that your wife was fleecing you - unless, as someone else has said, she was buying very expensive ingredients.
£700 per month food spend for 2 people 8 years ago is astronomical.
So how much are you spending on food now?
I cook mainly from scratch, we like stews and casseroles, mince meals etc so easy to bulk out with nutritious food like vegetables.
Was accused of coercive control by her if I mentioned it, we where only married for seven years, both then in late 50's
I am spending between £40-£60 per week on food depending on menu, I also cook from scratch. Monkfish and mussels last night, Carrot and sweet potato soup for lunch today, Pork meatloaf with vegetables tonight. Probably about £250 per month now on food,
Many other things have come to light since she died that made me shiver.
She promised much but delivered little, I love Cawl, she never cooked it and I was banned from the Kitchen almost. Indeed I was not allowed to use the downstairs toilet, just in case her friends called.
Not sure why you would ask your vicar about spend on food though (but then again, I'm not religious so don't understand how those sorts of conversations go).
If you're happy with your current diet and food spend (and it does sound like you are eating pretty well). just put it out of your mind.
It's history.
I went and described everything including that before she met me she had 17 miscarriages. I did say there is no reason why that should happen again, yet another bruise.
I have forgotten it, but it feels that everything is stacked against males. I realise that I should probably not say this but I am happy now/8 -
Does it really matter any more or are you constantly thinking about it because you want to remember the rubbish times? there is nothing at all you can do about it now so stewing about it just does no good whatsoever. I think you need to find someone to help you move on from all of it, otherwise the rest of your life is going to be full of recriminations that can't go anywhere.
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-taff said:Does it really matter any more or are you constantly thinking about it because you want to remember the rubbish times? there is nothing at all you can do about it now so stewing about it just does no good whatsoever. I think you need to find someone to help you move on from all of it, otherwise the rest of your life is going to be full of recriminations that can't go anywhere.
It came up because I wondered what people think.
She lied on more than one occasion. I would hate any person to go through what I had .
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jacko220 said:Pollycat said:jacko220 said:Pollycat said:jacko220 said:Rather a sensitive topic, would you call £700 for two people enough for only food shopping, I think I know the answer, however, I would like people's comments by the way this was in 2014.
It seems clear to me that your wife was fleecing you - unless, as someone else has said, she was buying very expensive ingredients.
£700 per month food spend for 2 people 8 years ago is astronomical.
So how much are you spending on food now?
I cook mainly from scratch, we like stews and casseroles, mince meals etc so easy to bulk out with nutritious food like vegetables.
Was accused of coercive control by her if I mentioned it, we where only married for seven years, both then in late 50's
I am spending between £40-£60 per week on food depending on menu, I also cook from scratch. Monkfish and mussels last night, Carrot and sweet potato soup for lunch today, Pork meatloaf with vegetables tonight. Probably about £250 per month now on food,
Many other things have come to light since she died that made me shiver.
She promised much but delivered little, I love Cawl, she never cooked it and I was banned from the Kitchen almost. Indeed I was not allowed to use the downstairs toilet, just in case her friends called.
Not sure why you would ask your vicar about spend on food though (but then again, I'm not religious so don't understand how those sorts of conversations go).
If you're happy with your current diet and food spend (and it does sound like you are eating pretty well). just put it out of your mind.
It's history.
I went and described everything including that before she met me she had 17 miscarriages. I did say there is no reason why that should happen again, yet another bruise.
I have forgotten it, but it feels that everything is stacked against males. I realise that I should probably not say this but I am happy now/Make £2023 in 2023 (#36) £3479.30/£2023
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annabanana82 said:jacko220 said:Pollycat said:jacko220 said:Pollycat said:jacko220 said:Rather a sensitive topic, would you call £700 for two people enough for only food shopping, I think I know the answer, however, I would like people's comments by the way this was in 2014.
It seems clear to me that your wife was fleecing you - unless, as someone else has said, she was buying very expensive ingredients.
£700 per month food spend for 2 people 8 years ago is astronomical.
So how much are you spending on food now?
I cook mainly from scratch, we like stews and casseroles, mince meals etc so easy to bulk out with nutritious food like vegetables.
Was accused of coercive control by her if I mentioned it, we where only married for seven years, both then in late 50's
I am spending between £40-£60 per week on food depending on menu, I also cook from scratch. Monkfish and mussels last night, Carrot and sweet potato soup for lunch today, Pork meatloaf with vegetables tonight. Probably about £250 per month now on food,
Many other things have come to light since she died that made me shiver.
She promised much but delivered little, I love Cawl, she never cooked it and I was banned from the Kitchen almost. Indeed I was not allowed to use the downstairs toilet, just in case her friends called.
Not sure why you would ask your vicar about spend on food though (but then again, I'm not religious so don't understand how those sorts of conversations go).
If you're happy with your current diet and food spend (and it does sound like you are eating pretty well). just put it out of your mind.
It's history.
I went and described everything including that before she met me she had 17 miscarriages. I did say there is no reason why that should happen again, yet another bruise.
I have forgotten it, but it feels that everything is stacked against males. I realise that I should probably not say this but I am happy now/1 -
For someone who says you’ve completely forgotten it, it does seem to be still on your mind for you to raise it again here and then keep posting more about her.What were you hoping it might achieve?All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.
Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.8 -
elsien said:For someone who says you’ve completely forgotten it, it does seem to be still on your mind for you to raise it again here and then keep posting more about her.What were you hoping it might achieve?1
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Try to forget about it I'd say. Sounds like a rough time you had but it's in the past now.1
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From reading through this, jacko220, it seems that what would do you a power of good (IMHO) is, if not therapy. at least getting someone qualified in such things to talk through this with you.
You were gaslighted, emotionally blackmailed, psychologically bullied and threatened by someone for many years - that is bound to have an effect on the strongest of people. If you could just 'forget about it' I'm sure you would have done so.
I agree, you do need to move on, but it may be that you need some help with this and if you feel that this is the case, I urge you to do so. It isn't weakness, or an inability to cope, it's just that some things you can't do for yourself.
Obviously, feel free to disregard my post if you feel I'm wrong - I can only go off what you've posted, I don't know you.
But I hope you'll consider it.2024 Fashion on the Ration - 10/66 coupons used
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Wraithlady said:From reading through this, jacko220, it seems that what would do you a power of good (IMHO) is, if not therapy. at least getting someone qualified in such things to talk through this with you.
You were gaslighted, emotionally blackmailed, psychologically bullied and threatened by someone for many years - that is bound to have an effect on the strongest of people. If you could just 'forget about it' I'm sure you would have done so.
I agree, you do need to move on, but it may be that you need some help with this and if you feel that this is the case, I urge you to do so. It isn't weakness, or an inability to cope, it's just that some things you can't do for yourself.
Obviously, feel free to disregard my post if you feel I'm wrong - I can only go off what you've posted, I don't know you.
But I hope you'll consider it.1
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