Our son and his partner regularly ask us to babysit our young grandchildren. While we love spending time with the kids, they live about an hour's drive from us, which means it costs £15 to £20 in fuel per round trip. It's becoming difficult to afford it with other bills rising, but I'm not sure if we should ask my son for money as they're feeling the pinch too.
Money Moral Dilemma: Should our son pay us for the fuel we use babysitting our grandchildren?

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Yes, you should definitely ask and I think you are justified in doing so.
You could come to a financial arrangement that suits both parties which means they still get to go out and you still get to spend that time with your grandchildren.
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if it is really causing you financial problems, then tell them about it.
I wonder why are they needing regular childcare - working, studying or a combo, date nights ?
In my humble opinion date nights are valuable but need to factor in an offer of fuel for childcare costs, maybe less date nights.