Who takes charge of family events?

pickledonionspaceraider

Good afternoon fellow earth dwellers

In your household, who takes charge in ensuring people get Birthday cards/presents etc -  ie for your side of the family and your OH's?

comeandgo

I do my side and he does his side.

marcia_

Me for everyone as he has a brain like a sieve.

74jax

I do my side, he does his.
He mostly forgets all his side though..... 😂 

tooldle

I used to ‘do’ both sides. Now, I only do my own side. 

lincroft1710

I do mine, "Mrs" L does hers. On reflection most we mostly individually message recipient on Facebook, but hardly ever buy presents.

pollypenny

I do all Christmas cards. OH does his own family birthdays. They're not a close family anyway. 

Spendless

I did the whole lot. Then as family grew older I found it more difficult to think of something for everyone so requested DH did his side. 

Savvy_Sue

I remind him when he needs to buy a card - not very often as he has few relatives. I then remind him to write it and post it. 

I sort out our boys, sometimes sending him to buy the cards. I do everyone else.

Sometimes I ask if he wants to send e.g. Get Well or sympathy cards to people I know of but don't really know. He says he does, but rarely manages it.

HampshireH

I do all children's cards/gifts for both sides

We do seperate birthday cards/gifts for family.

But in terms of events, I coordinate our attendance and ensure we are available and not double booked or that we are (should the need arise😆)

maman

I do most of the cards through the year for friends and family. Generally I get DH to write the cards for his family. 

At Christmas, DH has always bought all the cards and writes for all his (enormous) family and friends. I write mine and buy a few special cards for our immediate family. 

For events we've held at home it's a joint thing in terms of what to eat, drink, sending invitations, decorations etc. Going to events, we check that we're both available /want to attend. I generally sort out any gifts needed sometimes with discussion of what to buy/how much to spend unless an online purchase then DH does it. 

Very general answers though. What/why specifically do you want to know? 🤔