Advice please: Should I move out?

Doozergirl

I'd really consider learning to drive whilst it's affordable at home.    It's a totally different kind of freedom.  The most liberating thing you can do.

HampshireH

Doozergirl said:

I'd really consider learning to drive whilst it's affordable at home.    It's a totally different kind of freedom.  The most liberating thing you can do.

I agree with this 100% . A driving licence will be so valuable later in life even if you have no need for one now (though your post would suggest otherwise)

I grew up a 40minute (30 on a brisk day) walk from the bus stop to anywhere. Driving was my lifeline.

That said if you have no desire to ever learn to drive (or medically can't) I would move out and take life by the reins.

jonnydeppiwish!

Doozergirl said:

I'd really consider learning to drive whilst it's affordable at home.    It's a totally different kind of freedom.  The most liberating thing you can do.

This. Possibly the biggest difference you can make full stop to your situation. Plus it’s a lot cheaper.

As for your partner moving in - that’s up to the 2 of you. Can you then save lots and be able to buy rather than rent? Better than paying someone else’s mortgage 

RAS

Doozergirl said:

I'd really consider learning to drive whilst it's affordable at home.    It's a totally different kind of freedom.  The most liberating thing you can do.

If you do this, check out car clubs in local towns.

KxMx

Even if it takes a couple of years energy prices will come down. So while you may not have much spare money straight away, things will get better.

To me it would absolutely be worth moving out now for better connectivity in terms of transport- I was liberated at 17 when my family moved from country to town, no family car either- and true independence.

I moved out of home a few months ago and you cannot beat being truly independent, and being in your own space where you don't have to consider anyone else and get to do everything your way.

I wasn't that happy there but even though more of my limited means will go on energy costs for now, I've truly never been happier, and the only thing that stops me wishing I'd done it sooner is I wouldn't be in this particularly lovely flat. 

SevenOne3

Doozergirl said:

I'd really consider learning to drive whilst it's affordable at home.    It's a totally different kind of freedom.  The most liberating thing you can do.

I cant drive for medical reasons 

GTR_King

The energy crisis is bit like a rollercoaster it will feel like going up the lift chain to start with and is gonna get allot worse in the near future for the UK/EU But if and when we eventually hit the top of the hill and you start hearing the people screaming as the train is hurtling down the hill you know it's gonna get better.

so if you can afford to id say move in with your partner as you say, if on by the off chance you split up can always move back home or get someone else to move in,

Ath_Wat

Alderbank said:

You don't give details but I get the impression that you live and work on the family farm. Is that right?
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I've read all their posts a few times and I can't for the life of me see where you get that from.

cymruchris

Freedom is liberating in many ways. Your own space, your own schedule, your own decor. I would certainly move out if the finances supported it. Yes there'll be a few costs ahead, but if you're careful in where you choose to live, you can help minimise them as much as possible. For example renting a smaller apartment rather than a big house where you're heating less space will help immensely. Also look at the type of heating in the places you're thinking to live in - things like underfloor heating can cost an arm and a leg even when there's no energy crisis. Something that runs on gas central heating with a gas hob in the kitchen is likely to be one of your cheaper options for now in terms of day to day heating/hot water costs - rather than an all-electric flat. 

There'll be things you might miss though, depending on how independent you currently are. Nobody to help you with your washing or cooking you dinner! (You might do those things yourself already of course!