Reasonable charge for Daughter moving back home.

flipper_72

Slightly different but when my parents moved in with us for a few weeks (which ended up as months) they offered to pay for the food shopping, all of it, we are a family of 4. My dad was astounded by how little I spent food shopping for all of us, he had spent more for just the 2 of them before moving in. I thought that was a reasonable deal, clearly water usage went up , as did electric and gas but I had no food bill so it more than evened out. The plus side was they changed their shopping habits when they moved out and had far less waste. Ask the daughter what she feels is fair, but base it on how long she is staying as well, if this is forever you want better planning/rules than for short term. 

TBagpuss

What are her plans? IS she looking for / sabving for a new property? 

I'd start with asking her to pay 1/3 of the bills (excluding mortgage if you still have one) and perhaps doing and paying for the shopping 1 week in three so you are splitting the food and other costs. 

Beyond that, it depends a bit on her plans. If she is actively looking for another house to buy maybe offer to let her stay rent free for 3 months and then review. If she isn't, loook at what rooms in shared houses in your area go for and start with that minus 10%.

Other than food costs, her being there probably won't add much to the household running costs - one extra person using water etc is unlikely to make a significant difference (unless she takes multiple long showers a day, or has the heating on full belt all day and night)  so it's really about what you feel comfrotable with Having a bot extra lets you enjoy a few luxuries or put money into savings 

Also - it's not really any of your other daughter's business. Don't discuss it with her other than to assure her that D1 is paying her way.

Years ago, i moved back in with my paents when I moved cross coutry for a job, and couldn't sell y house very fast. While I was still paying a mrgage, they just asked me to pay 1/3 of the grocery bills as that was the only extra expense, and I was still paying for housing lsewhere. Once my house sold, I offered to pay them an amount simialr to what I would have paid elsewhere s a odger - they turned it down (partly this was on the basis I was still fairly young so wasn't earning a massive amiunt and had minimal equity, and had moved south so getting a new hous was expensive) I'm aware that that have given help to my siblings at different times and in different ways but I don't know the details as it's none of my business. Fair and equal aren't always the same thing, if you are halping your daughterbecuas she's gone througha divorce and is having a difficult time, that doesn't mean you have to spend the exact same amount of money or give the same support to your other daughter - you may well help or have helped your other daughter in diffeerent ways as and when she is the one needing help. 

RogerBareford

nickcc said:

Hello.
Both my Wife and I are in our seventies and our 50 year old Daughter is moving back home after Divorce.  My Daughter works full time for the NHS and has about £100,000 banked from her house sale,  my Wife has the state pension based on my earnings, I have the lowest state pension but have a very good company pension with annual increase based on the RPI up to 7%.  We would like to know what amount would be considered reasonable taking in to account that everything will be supplied by us except Alcohol and her personal expenses and her car running costs etc.  We would expect treats such as meals out etc to be excluded from any rental.  We are trying to be fair to all parties concerned as we wouldn’t want a fall out with our other Daughter thinking that her Sister is getting more than her.  Many thanks.

This sounds like a temporary move so i would just work out what extra she will increase all the bills from and charge that, i think that would be fair for a period of up to 3 months which will give her plenty of time to find a permanent place to stay.

Anything longer than that then i would be saying £600 a month to ecourage her to not get complacent when looking for somewhere.

getmore4less

nickcc said:

comeandgo said:

I’d look at adverts in your area and see what the going rate is and then as it’s family deduct 10%.  Or if you don’t want her to stay long add 10%.

Thanks for reply.  As we live in very popular tourist area it would be very unfair to go off rental prices around especially as many second home owners have moved to the tourist trade which has increased the demand by locals for more rental properties.

You have the Airbnb type option.

If the area is expensive that the way it is.

If you don't want her there long term it needs to be competitive to avoid complacency.

Everything except alcohol is a very generous lodger agreement.

Are you expecting her to chip in with cooking and chores?