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Does your mother own her home or is it a social landlord? Either way it appears that your sister is taking advantage of the situation against the interests of your mothers estate and other potential future beneficaries. If her and her husband are living there she should be paying rent, full council tax and all utility bills. Allowing her to continue to bury her head in the sand is not helping anyone other than her and her immediate family. Be careful that she does not coerce you into going along with this continued deceit.0
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elsien said:You’re still missing the point slightly. This is about your mum now. Not who pays what after she dies. So if the bank don’t know she’s lost capacity then register the LPA with them yourself. Monitor what is happening with her money. And if it’s not being used in her best interests then you either report your sisters or you become complicit in their use of her. Maybe telling them that will make them do things properly?0
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Matey123 said:elsien said:You’re still missing the point slightly. This is about your mum now. Not who pays what after she dies. So if the bank don’t know she’s lost capacity then register the LPA with them yourself. Monitor what is happening with her money. And if it’s not being used in her best interests then you either report your sisters or you become complicit in their use of her. Maybe telling them that will make them do things properly?
Have you registered the LPA with the bank?0 -
Or raised a formal safeguarding about financial abuse with the local authority?
All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.
Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.0 -
gwynlas said:Does your mother own her home or is it a social landlord? Either way it appears that your sister is taking advantage of the situation against the interests of your mothers estate and other potential future beneficaries. If her and her husband are living there she should be paying rent, full council tax and all utility bills. Allowing her to continue to bury her head in the sand is not helping anyone other than her and her immediate family. Be careful that she does not coerce you into going along with this continued deceit.0
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But if you are also the LPA you are equally responsible in what happens if you sit and do nothing,
I am sorry about the impact this is having on you, but mum appointed people she thought she could trust to act for her if she needed them to. This may sound blunt, but trying to cover yourself from any ramifications while not taking any other action isn't acting in her best interests.
You can register the LPA with the bank and any other organisation.
You can inform the DWP that she has gone into a care home, in case that affects anything.
You can inform all the utility providers that mum is no longer paying the bills.
You can inform council tax that she's no longer living there.
You can raise concerns with the OPG
You can raise a financial safeguarding
Whether you do that or not is between you and your conscience.
Who is paying for you mum to be in the care home?
All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.
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The other option for the OP is to resign as LPA by sending in an LPA0005 form to the OPG, while at the same time reporting the financial abuse as other posters have suggested.
Given that the OP is already stressed and anxious and it hasn't even got particularly nasty yet, they seriously need to consider that. If they can't carry out the duties of an attorney there's no shame in admitting it.
The mother is safe in a care home and it's not her electricity that is in danger of being turned off.
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elsien said:But if you are also the LPA you are equally responsible in what happens if you sit and do nothing,
I am sorry about the impact this is having on you, but mum appointed people she thought she could trust to act for her if she needed them to. This may sound blunt, but trying to cover yourself from any ramifications while not taking any other action isn't acting in her best interests.
You can register the LPA with the bank and any other organisation.
You can inform the DWP that she has gone into a care home, in case that affects anything.
You can inform all the utility providers that mum is no longer paying the bills.
You can inform council tax that she's no longer living there.
You can raise concerns with the OPG
You can raise a financial safeguarding
Whether you do that or not is between you and your conscience.
Who is paying for you mum to be in the care home?0 -
Pollycat said:Matey123 said:elsien said:You’re still missing the point slightly. This is about your mum now. Not who pays what after she dies. So if the bank don’t know she’s lost capacity then register the LPA with them yourself. Monitor what is happening with her money. And if it’s not being used in her best interests then you either report your sisters or you become complicit in their use of her. Maybe telling them that will make them do things properly?
Have you registered the LPA with the bank?Pollycat said:Matey123 said:elsien said:You’re still missing the point slightly. This is about your mum now. Not who pays what after she dies. So if the bank don’t know she’s lost capacity then register the LPA with them yourself. Monitor what is happening with her money. And if it’s not being used in her best interests then you either report your sisters or you become complicit in their use of her. Maybe telling them that will make them do things properly?
Have you registered the LPA with the bank?Pollycat said:Matey123 said:elsien said:You’re still missing the point slightly. This is about your mum now. Not who pays what after she dies. So if the bank don’t know she’s lost capacity then register the LPA with them yourself. Monitor what is happening with her money. And if it’s not being used in her best interests then you either report your sisters or you become complicit in their use of her. Maybe telling them that will make them do things properly?
Have you registered the LPA with the bank?Pollycat said:Matey123 said:elsien said:You’re still missing the point slightly. This is about your mum now. Not who pays what after she dies. So if the bank don’t know she’s lost capacity then register the LPA with them yourself. Monitor what is happening with her money. And if it’s not being used in her best interests then you either report your sisters or you become complicit in their use of her. Maybe telling them that will make them do things properly?
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Matey123 said:Pollycat said:Matey123 said:elsien said:You’re still missing the point slightly. This is about your mum now. Not who pays what after she dies. So if the bank don’t know she’s lost capacity then register the LPA with them yourself. Monitor what is happening with her money. And if it’s not being used in her best interests then you either report your sisters or you become complicit in their use of her. Maybe telling them that will make them do things properly?
Have you registered the LPA with the bank?Pollycat said:Matey123 said:elsien said:You’re still missing the point slightly. This is about your mum now. Not who pays what after she dies. So if the bank don’t know she’s lost capacity then register the LPA with them yourself. Monitor what is happening with her money. And if it’s not being used in her best interests then you either report your sisters or you become complicit in their use of her. Maybe telling them that will make them do things properly?
Have you registered the LPA with the bank?Pollycat said:Matey123 said:elsien said:You’re still missing the point slightly. This is about your mum now. Not who pays what after she dies. So if the bank don’t know she’s lost capacity then register the LPA with them yourself. Monitor what is happening with her money. And if it’s not being used in her best interests then you either report your sisters or you become complicit in their use of her. Maybe telling them that will make them do things properly?
Have you registered the LPA with the bank?Pollycat said:Matey123 said:elsien said:You’re still missing the point slightly. This is about your mum now. Not who pays what after she dies. So if the bank don’t know she’s lost capacity then register the LPA with them yourself. Monitor what is happening with her money. And if it’s not being used in her best interests then you either report your sisters or you become complicit in their use of her. Maybe telling them that will make them do things properly?
Have you registered the LPA with the bank?0
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