Division of monies paid guidance?

Flugelhorn

yes pensions complicated, if one partner has worked part time to bring up the children then they may have missed out on being able to contribute to pension - so will need some sort of sharing agreement.

TBagpuss

Flugelhorn said:

yes pensions complicated, if one partner has worked part time to bring up the children then they may have missed out on being able to contribute to pension - so will need some sort of sharing agreement.

As theynevver married there is no legal claim on each other's pensions, and no mechanism to set up a share. Certainly from a moral / ethical persepctive it woud likely be fair to make an adjustment to account for differences in pensions but no legal right to it. 

sheramber

After 20 years share 50/50.

Otherwise you will end up scoring pints of each other with 'I paid for this. I paid for that'.

I am surprised you can remember what you paid for and how much you paid over the last 20 years.

What did you wife sacrifice to carry and look after your children?

What effect did it have on her career prospects and her pension?