Starting a family and work

Nasa

My partner and I have started trying for our first child very recently.  I'm also bored with work, and I have been for a year or so.  I feel like I’m in a role with little prospects.  I don’t like my manager who I rarely see. 

Am I overthinking this? Part of me is thinking I am setting up roadblocks to avoid change?

Mojisola

I would say that you're trying to do too much, too quickly. 
Getting pregnant before getting stable after coming off medication is not a good idea - the big changes in the body during pregnancy can cause emotional ups-and-downs - it will be hard to separate those changes from the underlying anxiety.  
Finish studying and get established in a new job if you can. 

TBagpuss

Bear in mind the rules around paternity leave (https://www.gov.uk/paternity-pay-leave/eligibility) - to qualify, you need to have been employed for 36 weeks leading up to the 15th week before the baby is born, so from about 1 week after conception, and to be employed at the time the baby is born, so if you were to change jobs you might find that you were not eligable.

Which of you is studying and how does that fit in? 

What are the finacial implications of you changing jobs? If a new job would mean a longer commute then that would have a fincial impact as well as meaning you were not areound as much to support your partner.

It might be better for you to look for, and start, a new job, and for your partner to aim to come off her medication, before you start trying for a baby, and for you to then plan based on your new situiaon, financial position etc. 

It's also worth bearaing in mind that if you move jobs you will have very limited employment protection for the first 2 years - that's not to say that you shouldn't change jobs, but it would be sensible to think about getting some savings behind you for emergencies, particualrly if you are expecting to move to a situation whhere you are the sole or main earner, if your parrtner does get pregnant.

elsien

Had the OP deleted or changed something in their initial post? Can’t see the medication reference? 

Mojisola

elsien said:

Had the OP deleted or changed something in their initial post? Can’t see the medication reference? 

Yes.  His partner is coming off anxiety meds.