Contested will

RAS

tkidcharlemagne said:

RAS said:

I'm not suggesting the OP seeks evidence of the rectitude of the claim. Just providing information as to sources if the OP wants to check out the "allegation".

From a personal perspective, evidence indicates a recent NPE although there are too many candidates. And in another case I know close relatives aren't aware of a first marriage. I'm not about to spread the information but I'd not lie, or refuse to provide information about sources they could use. 

There's no chance of an NPE. My Father and I are spitting image as identical ages. Uncanny similarities actually. How dare you actually 

I'm not suggesting you're anything other than your father's child.

I am saying that my own family includes two instances where the larger family don't know about about a) someone closely related (although exactly how would mean a lot of research) and b)  a prior marriage. Nothing to do with you or your family

Flugelhorn

blimey @tkidcharlemagne what a bizarre thing to happen - also so many oddities like "where was he for all these years" etc etc - personally I would be curious to prove whether he was the real deal ie that there was a birth of a child to your mother - there are often cases of unknown marriages but women having unspoken of children in marriage is pretty rare

tooldle

RAS said:

tkidcharlemagne said:

RAS said:

I'm not suggesting the OP seeks evidence of the rectitude of the claim. Just providing information as to sources if the OP wants to check out the "allegation".

From a personal perspective, evidence indicates a recent NPE although there are too many candidates. And in another case I know close relatives aren't aware of a first marriage. I'm not about to spread the information but I'd not lie, or refuse to provide information about sources they could use. 

There's no chance of an NPE. My Father and I are spitting image as identical ages. Uncanny similarities actually. How dare you actually 

I'm not suggesting you're anything other than your father's child.

I am saying that my own family includes two instances where the larger family don't know about about a) someone closely related (although exactly how would mean a lot of research) and b)  a prior marriage. Nothing to do with you or your family

More common than many would imagine. An example in my family, my husbands gran had a previous marriage. Nobody knew until her son started researching his family tree. Gran refused to discuss the discovery which happened a few years prior to her death at > 80 yrs. Also a work colleague in his early 60’s discovered his mother had a previous marriage and a child who had remained with the father on breakdown of the marriage. Colleague discovered his step sibling via papers found after his mothers passing. Another friend closer to my own age, was left with his father after his mother left the marriage. No contact at all since the early 70’s. Times have indeed changed a lot. 

tkidcharlemagne

Flugelhorn said:

blimey @tkidcharlemagne what a bizarre thing to happen - also so many oddities like "where was he for all these years" etc etc - personally I would be curious to prove whether he was the real deal ie that there was a birth of a child to your mother - there are often cases of unknown marriages but women having unspoken of children in marriage is pretty rare

I'm just glad he never attempted to make contact before to be honest. Especially while she was still alive and to be frank since there's no chance now he'll get to essentially profit materially.

rose_T

This man maybe a little upset and hurt that (if true) his mother left him and made this whole new family and completely forgot about him. Maybe he was left with a unfit father and had a horrible upbringing and his only chance of getting back at his mother was to contest the will. 

Legally he can’t claim any of the money and you don’t have to give him any but show a little compassion. How would you feel if the circumstances was reversed? 

Him coming out the woodwork now could be down to him researching and looking for his mother. 

Goose_Grass

tkidcharlemagne said:

...My solicitor has notified me an unknown son from my Mother's previous marriage has emailed him contesting the estate. My Mother divorced his Father in the fifties if he's genuine, which my solicitor seems to believe he is. This came like a bolt out of the blue. I had no idea he existed. He has never contacted the family before and is now quite belligerently attempting to make a claim though his details he gave in the email are all wrong and he appeared to be fishing for info. He claimed I was deceased for example....

Compassion is always a good policy, and no doubt the man challenging the disbursement has had his struggles.  The mother likely had hers, too.  We don't know what happened, but it seems to have been painful enough to never speak about it.  Compassion all 'round.

But even if this man is genuine, he's not gone about announcing himself in a way that would positively dispose a surprised half-sibling to him or his cause.   Which is a shame, as one can imagine other, more constructive outcomes.