Builder Intimidating Single vulnerable Mum/Nurse

YorkshireLad1

calleyw said:

There are two different parts to this.  One which is civil which is the kitchen which others have touched on.  The other is her own safety. She needs to call 101 as well.  And have a chat with the police.  If she is infear of her own safety which is seems that she feels,  then that needs to be dealt with.  if he is touching her without her consent thats assault.  And no one deserves to be afraid of every knock on the door.  Get a video door bell.  And only talk to him through an upstairs window and do not open door the door to him when/if he comes around.  

good advice. I will relay this.

Ergates

OK this is way beyond a simple consumer rights question - she needs to speak to CA and probably the police.

It sounds very likely she's been ripped off, but also that she is in some real actual danger from this man.

Aylesbury_Duck

YorkshireLad1 said:

grabbing her, telling her he loves her, saying if she was with him she wouldn't have to pay for anything and he'd give her a monthly allowance (kind of confirming he knows she is hard up)

Police.  Quite simply.

Flight3287462

One point to remember is the kitchen was bought via the builders account from Howden's she doesn't have the right to see what the builder paid.  But any decent builder would have been upfront with her about this.  Sounds horrible.

YorkshireLad1

Flight3287462 said:

One point to remember is the kitchen was bought via the builders account from Howden's she doesn't have the right to see what the builder paid.  But any decent builder would have been upfront with her about this.  Sounds horrible.

Yes but she was fraudulently given the impression she would benefit from his tradesman discount. In actual fact she was charged 300-400% more. She kept asking for a breakdown after the kitchen was unexpectedly delivered by hoydens and got nothing, until eventually - probably outside the return window - she got a piece of paper saying £7,500 to supply a kitchen.

MalMonroe

Oh I agree with everyone who is saying please contact the police.

Your friend is being stalked and that is really very serious indeed. She needs to take out a restraining order against this horrible bully. But she needs to also speak to the police about the fraud and theft.  

If it were me (I was - and I guess I still am but my children are grown - a single parent on my own trying to survive and I know all about gross men trying to take advantage) - I would take some time to actually physically visit the nearest police station to ask if I could speak to someone about being stalked and harassed.  Then I'd ask how to go about getting a restraining order. That's better than dialling those non-urgent police phone numbers where you can't get through and have to hang on the line for 2 hours just to speak to someone who isn't actually a police officer who will probably say that there's no-one available at present.

I did that once, too - visited the local police station when I was being harassed and someone there actually sat down and spoke to me and was able to help. Your friend needs to do that as soon as possible since this man turns up unexpectedly and very unacceptably.

Lavendyr

Aylesbury_Duck said:

YorkshireLad1 said:

grabbing her, telling her he loves her, saying if she was with him she wouldn't have to pay for anything and he'd give her a monthly allowance (kind of confirming he knows she is hard up)

Police.  Quite simply.

Absolutely this. 

pulliptears

However you do this be factual.  Her status as a single mother or job in the NHS has no bearing whatsoever and using these to paint the picture will actively irritate some people.  Neither are relevant.