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Buying my ex partner out of mortgage
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Michaelob93
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Hi. Me and my partner broke up 11 months ago we had a mortgage and young child together, she walked away from the family home leaving me to cover all the mortgage payments and bills on my own aswell as having my child 4 nights per week. We had the house valued, we then calculated that at the point she left she will accept a cash payout for half of the equity in the house at the point she moved out. It’s not been 11 months and I have just had the mortgage excepted to have on my own, I called to say I will transfer the money we agreed on so she can take her name off the mortgage, she replied saying that the house is now worth a lot more money so she wants it re valuing and more money in return to sign the house over.
Even tho she has not contributed a single £ since she walked out is she entitled to a larger amount because the house is worth more or should she only receive half of the equity from when she moved out?
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Assuming no declaration of trust set up when you first purchased the property.
Also assuming no legal agreement signed by both of you when the buyout was agreed.
50% of the equity is hers, it doesn't matter she hasn't contributed since. All you can do is try and negotiate or sell up and start over.Mortgage started 2020, aiming to clear 31/12/2029.1 -
It just makes no sense how she can refuse to remove her name now knowing that the longer this goes on she is going to get more and more money even tho she has no financial commitments to my house any more, surley there is something I can legally do to block the amount she can have off me?0
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Michaelob93 said:she replied saying that the house is now worth a lot more money so she wants it re valuing and more money in return to sign the house over.0
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Michaelob93 said:It just makes no sense how she can refuse to remove her name now knowing that the longer this goes on she is going to get more and more money even tho she has no financial commitments to my house any more, surley there is something I can legally do to block the amount she can have off me?0
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MEM62 said:Michaelob93 said:she replied saying that the house is now worth a lot more money so she wants it re valuing and more money in return to sign the house over.0
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tightauldgit said:MEM62 said:Michaelob93 said:she replied saying that the house is now worth a lot more money so she wants it re valuing and more money in return to sign the house over.0
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MEM62 said:tightauldgit said:MEM62 said:Michaelob93 said:she replied saying that the house is now worth a lot more money so she wants it re valuing and more money in return to sign the house over.
I went through this during my own divorce. Ex-wife left and refused to make any payments towards any joint liabilities. Spoke to multiple solicitors and all advised the same - nothing you can do. He's living in the house and enjoying 'her 50%' without paying any rent to her so I think they see that as balancing out.
It's not necessarily fair as my ex was also being obstructive in allowing a sale to go through so she was forcing me to stay in the property and pay 100% of the mortgage while benefiting from the increase in equity which sucked.
Of course when it comes to court the judge can make adjustments on a whole host of circumstances and there is no certainty that either party gets a 50/50 split but there is no rule that not contributing to a mortgage builds up a debt to be repaid.
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You say partner - are you married?
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Michaelob93 said:Hi. Me and my partner broke up 11 months ago we had a mortgage and young child together, she walked away from the family home leaving me to cover all the mortgage payments and bills on my own aswell as having my child 4 nights per week. We had the house valued, we then calculated that at the point she left she will accept a cash payout for half of the equity in the house at the point she moved out. It’s not been 11 months and I have just had the mortgage excepted to have on my own, I called to say I will transfer the money we agreed on so she can take her name off the mortgage, she replied saying that the house is now worth a lot more money so she wants it re valuing and more money in return to sign the house over.Even tho she has not contributed a single £ since she walked out is she entitled to a larger amount because the house is worth more or should she only receive half of the equity from when she moved out?
When courts make orders about this of thing it's typical that the lump sum paid is either 50% 9or other agreed % ) of the value of the house as at the date the lump sum is pad, or (less common ) a set lump sum plus interest until the lump sum is paid.
If you have paid a lump sum off the mortgage in the meantime that's a bit different and it would be fair to take it into account, but otherwise, it's reasonable to treat her half' of the mortgage that you have been paying, as your rent for occupying her half of the house.
If your child is with you 4 nights a week then you are the primary carer and would potentially be entitled to claim the child benefit and possibly also child support from your ex,All posts are my personal opinion, not formal advice Always get proper, professional advice (particularly about anything legal!)1 -
Unfortunately, people always have difficulty seeing things from the other side in these situations.
Food for thought - You live in a house you jointly own. Do you pay her rent for half the house?
Do you think it would be fairer if she paid half the mortgage despite not living there?
Presumably she is not homeless so has other housing obligations, does you pay towards these?
Seems like a fantastic deal for you where your housing payments build equity whereas hers go in the bin.MEM62 said:Michaelob93 said:she replied saying that the house is now worth a lot more money so she wants it re valuing and more money in return to sign the house over.
It's about seeing the bigger picture and seeing it from both sides.Know what you don't1
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