Neighbour issues- fence -dumping

mrs_blackadder

No real advice but I wonder whether the previous owner had any disputes with the neighbour which they should have disclosed...

illbeurhuckleberry

mrs_blackadder said:

No real advice but I wonder whether the previous owner had any disputes with the neighbour which they should have disclosed...

I had wondered this myself but not sure how I would find this out. It was only afterwards that I spent with the previous vendor that she explained the issues they had.

illbeurhuckleberry

Bendy_House said:

Of course you don't behave like this - you are normal. He is not.

In this instance, I think the advice above is best - just get the stuff cleared since you are happy to do this. And some folk might well take it away for you for nothing.

I suggest you do need to protect yourself from his aggressive behaviour, tho', and folk like this will usually continue to behave like this until tackled. The simplest way is to buy a discrete camera - £12 from t'Bay - and have it running any time you need to deal with him. AND, you deal with him as you would a normal person - do not be intimidated (you don't sound as tho' you are!), don't shy away, don't avoid.

His behaviour IS completely unacceptable, but you'll need evidence before the local police have a word and a Cease & Desist. It's up to you whether you want to do this, or whether you can live with it for a 'quiet' life, and many folk think that taking this sort of action will escalate things instead. In my experience, the opposite is true; these psychos appear to lose it completely, but they only partly do - the presence of a 'blue' would sober them up instantly. They have learned that such aggressive behaviour just makes most folk back down, and it gets them things they are simply not entitled to. Once they find it doesn't work - and that their behaviour will be challenged, questioned and addressed, they begin to behave. Usually.

You sound very 'cool' - in every sense Protect yourself with a recording device, and also remind yourself there is nothing he can actually 'do' to you - he isn't going to hit you, for example, because he knows the game will then be well and truly up. His 'out of control' behaviour isn't really.

Keep on as you are - pleasant, rational, reasonable. By all means 'question' his behaviour should he start to rant; "I'm trying to discuss this fence - why are you being so aggressive?" "Why are you shouting?" Simple stuff designed to show you are not intimidated, but do find his behaviour weird and unacceptable - and you are going to question him on it, and are expecting him to explain. Have it all recorded...

If you'd been able to record the 'solar light throwing' incident, then that would have warranted a call to the police - no question. And I'll add that, almost certainly, he wouldn't do that again.

Great advice and support thank you.

illbeurhuckleberry

canaldumidi said:

illbeurhuckleberry said:

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This neighbour had dumped all his rubbish on my land-i own a small alleyway at the back of my garden that he has right of way. Anyway the council sent him a letter to remove it or they would take legal action. He moved it ......

Not sure how you got the council to do this, but since it worked why not repeat the process. Not only will you get the fence panels removed, but the council will then have two episodes on record.

Is one or the other property a council property? Or perhaps you/he own leases and the council own the freehold? Just interested.....

Both houses are owned. I simple contacted the council and explained the situation. The previous vendor said his rubbish ,that consisted of wood cement ,asbestos had been there for a very long time. They asked for pictures- they looked at the deeds to my house where it clearly shows I own that strip of land. 
interesrtingly,  they asked me if I am comfortable with them sending the letter, as my neighbour might know it was me who reported him and they didn't want things to escalate.

the letter said remove the rubbish or we will be taking legal action. Its essentially  fly tipping. They removed it but left a few items behind and the area in a mess. Is this not common practice then with councils?

In my profession  I manage all sorts of difficult traumatic situations but in my own home its just not nice. 

canaldumidi

Good for XXX council. Most would not do this.

Few councils get involved in flytipping on private land, and few councils get involved in private/civil disputes between individuals.

Bendy_House

canaldumidi said:

Good for XXX council. Most would not do this.

Few councils get involved in flytipping on private land, and few councils get involved in private/civil disputes between individuals.

Not sure that's completely true - I understand that LAs have an obligation to act if there's harassment, nuisance, that sort of thing.