First meeting with Manager followed by supervision meeting & Disciplinary

General_Grant

intex310 said:

Thanks all.

Just handed in my resignation with immediate effect and the manager accepted it straight away. Sad I had to leave my dream job but I feel free. I can breathe now. Looking forward to get a job again. Should I mention my 3 weeks at this work? Would I get a reference good/bad? 

So you handed in your resignation and left immediately without working any of that shift?  Are HR/Payroll aware that that was accepted?

You will be due pay for the time you did work together with accrued holiday pay (even if your written particulars say holiday accrues for full months).

If you didn't mention your time with this employer, how would you explain leaving your previous employer?

The employer can decide whether or not to provide a reference.  What they say should be true.  Whether it is considered good or bad depends on what they write.

Spendless

I'm sorry you've ended up lhanding your notice in on what you thought would be your dream job. I think an apology for calling her darling would have been enough. She could have reprimanded you at the time as it being inappropriate.  My line manager who is under a lot of stress accidentally said bye love you to a customer on the phone the other day, the customer took it in good spirit as he realised his mistake and said sorry.

What about taking some temporary agency work just as a stop gap? 

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OP, I sincerely hope you have learned something from this.

SChitmehard

It's easy for employers to abuse their power in this type of situation and if the manager does not take a liking to you or you do not kiss up to them, then they can fire you and get an easy replacement. Some employers are only employing people for <2 years and then get rid of them just before they get employment rights.

The person that suffers is the employee, they have a dismissal on their record and no/bad reference and there is NOTHING you can do about it, even if the employer lies. Imagine if they accused you of stealing and fired you (all they have to have is a "reasonable belief" (so money missing from till, you were in work and near the till, so you must be the thief! = dismissal for theft, gross misconduct). You are then stuck with the thief label and there is nothing you can do about it. Maybe take legal action but then you need big money. 

SChitmehard

Jillanddy said:

SChitmehard said:

It's easy for employers to abuse their power in this type of situation and if the manager does not take a liking to you or you do not kiss up to them, then they can fire you and get an easy replacement. Some employers are only employing people for <2 years and then get rid of them just before they get employment rights.

The person that suffers is the employee, they have a dismissal on their record and no/bad reference and there is NOTHING you can do about it, even if the employer lies. Imagine if they accused you of stealing and fired you (all they have to have is a "reasonable belief" (so money missing from till, you were in work and near the till, so you must be the thief! = dismissal for theft, gross misconduct). You are then stuck with the thief label and there is nothing you can do about it. Maybe take legal action but then you need big money. 

But there is no evidence that the employer did abuse their power. As an individual,  you may be of the opinion that you might have handled a situation differently. But that is only your opinion.  In this case,  based solely on what the OP accepts they did,  and within two weeks of starting,  the opinion of their employer is different. And whilst you might not believe it's reasonable,  in this case the employer decided that if this was the first two weeks behaviour, they didn't want to see what the third week would bring.  That's their choice.  And no different from employees who walk out after a week or two. 

Yes it's possible that an employer might lie about something.  Employees, of course,  never lie about things.  There are bad employers. There are bad employees. 

Sorry, I didn't mean in this particular case, but generally, employers can behave very badly and get away with it, the manager/business is hardly affected, it's the employee that then is massively affected (they may have given up a good job/relocated to change employers, so are then forced to accept being misled/dumped on etc.. or take dismissal/walkout) and can't do anything about it. I've just come to learn how little power an employee has and that the employer can get away with this type of behaviour with next to no chance of being held to account.