Family holiday sister wants to come

rose28454

My husband and I and our grown up children and their small kids are going on a family holiday skiing in a couple of weeks. We are renting a chalet that sleeps 8 ( but they are allowing an extra for our 2 year old grandchild ) but we are 9. Bit of confusion as we are going Feb half term and we booked for the Somerset half term but our son and family live in Margate and we didn’t realise it was a different week. So they will travel out with us but will only stay till the Wednesday instead of Friday / Saturday that the rest of us are staying until. There are 3 bedrooms so one family in each and when son and co leave hubby and I would have a bedroom each and daughter and family in the other. My hubby is paying the total cost of the chalet from an inheritance. 

So on Thursday night after a short illness my 95 year old mum died although we had though she would come home but her care needs would be 24 hours a day so my 2 sisters would have looked after her whilst I was away as I was her main carer. 

Now she is gone one sister will go back to Geneva where she lives and the other has suggested she come out and her or both of them join us fit the last 2 days at the chalet and one travel back with us in our hired van. 

Thing is it is our family holiday and they are both quite demanding with their needs and diet and it would mean hubby and I would be in same room. We have separate rooms at home as I’m not a great sleeper and whilst  I’m willing to share when our children are there it would be nice to have separate rooms and some space especially as we are paying. When she suggested it we didn’t say no but didn’t exactly agree. Hubby daughter and I have talked today and all agree it’s not a great idea. 

How do I approach this? 

comeandgo

You could just say you don’t think it’s a good idea and would prefer to keep the arrangements as they were.

sheramber

Is there anything on the booking that stats only those named on the booking can stay?

74jax

I'd just say this is the arrangements, do you want to come? 
It's your holiday, you are paying, the invitation to them is on your terms. They are either going to say yes and get free holiday, or no.
You don't accept an invitation then change the invitation to suit your needs. 
They could always rent their own place nearby if they wanted. 

I've just reread and you didn't invite her, sorry I misunderstood... 
If you don't want her to join you, just say it's a family holiday for you and your kids /grandkids. Offer to have a sisters one at a later date maybe. 
I'd be honest and just say no if it was me (if that's what I wanted) but that's the relationship me and my brother have. 
I also wouldn't be responsible for driving her back. Too much baggage, not enough room. If want to stop off when I wanted etc. 

Flugelhorn

just say you want to spend time with your daughter  and grandchildren, perhaps you could have a "sisters" weekend at another time?

[Deleted User]

Hi,

does your son get 'fined' if kids not back for school, for the 2 days maybe worth it.

rose28454

Thanks for all the replies ( can’t seem to quote not been on Mse in a while. Had a long discussion with son today and think they are just going to ask the school to take their daughter out for the extra days and just pay the fine if it happens. So that’s solved the problem of my sister. Thing is my sisters and I pre pandemic went to nice couple times a year as the eldest sister has a place there. 

So I’m going to look at flights tommorow  
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