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Lodger issues

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  • canaldumidi
    canaldumidi Posts: 3,511 Forumite
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    edited 19 January 2022 at 1:39PM
    Ideally forget the contract and come to a mutual agreement.
    Neither of you are happy with the relationship. He's effectively moved out.
    So formalise an end and you can both get on with your lives.
    Agree an 'Early Surrender' of the contract. It really does not matter what date you agree - I'd say the sooner the better. He pays rent up to that date and moves all his possessions out by that date. Provided there's no damage you return his deposit in full (together with any advance rent he might have paid). If rent is outstanding to that date, take it from the deposit and give him a clear written statement of what he owed.
    The Early Surrender needs to be written, and dual-signed, with a clear end date.
    It's not worth the hassle and unpleasantness of trying to enforce ongoing rent or contractual rights.
    Next time have a clear, short (1 week? 2 weeks?) notice period either way, and NO fixed term.

  • Slinky
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    Get rid of him before he falls out with the partner and wants to move back in with you..........
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  • He's moved out, be glad of this and cut your losses and let him go. Why you'd want to get into a legal argument or make him move back in when clearly neither of you enjoyed living under the same roof I don't know.. 
  • I agree with pretty much all that has been said. If you’re so unhappy with him as a lodger, be glad he’s left without a fight and move on. I also wouldn’t be happy living with those terms. He’s (presumably) an adult, and perhaps felt he was being micromanaged in his own home - because regardless of who is the landlord in this situation, it *was* his home.

    In future, OP, if you do re let the room, ensure you have a *fair*, enforceable contract drawn up, and don’t add random clauses. Also, it’s worth noting that sharing a home rarely works without equal give and take on all sides. Just because you can make a rule, doesn’t mean you should or that it won’t cause tensions. It’s rarely easy to live with a stranger, ‘pick your battles’ is the best bit of advice I can give you from the years I lived in house shares in my younger days. 
  • bbat
    bbat Posts: 151 Forumite
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    Sorry this has been difficult
     If it was me I'd cut my losses with this one. There is no good feeling between you all here and mentally its likely to cause more stress pursuing what you think you're owed than just drawing a line under it and asking them to collect their stuff. 
    If you need the extra income to afford the property think about changing to a cheaper property. Or next time, create a much fairer lodger agreement and accept that when sharing things aren't always exactly how you want them, that's part of sharing a home.  
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