Selling a House you bought a couple of months ago

lookstraightahead

I've moved 13 times in my adult life, but I don't think I've ever disliked anywhere I lived - ranging from flats to houses and rentals / buying.

I never consider 'home' the house I'm in, it's always the area (and family/friends). That's why I don't understand terms like 'forever home' or 'dream house'. 

Perhaps it's not the house op, it's the location? Maybe the 'vibe' isn't right for you.

my area is all old higgledy piggledy houses and none are the same, semi rural. I feel very much at home with such circumstances. That's why I could never live on a new estate. You might be the opposite.

firsttimespender

kef88 said:

i tried writing a list of things I would want to do to the house to make it more mine and realised I basically want to turn it into my old new build which is what started this thread.

realistically I know the better option is to try and wait a bit before making a decision but I don’t know how long that should be 6 months a year or longer?

You moved in just at the beginning of winter, and just before the start of Omicron which has made everything very unsettled for the last few months. I would give it another three months or so, see if things settle down externally and if spring gives you any optimism about the house, and then reassess. When you made your list were there any quick wins, changes you could make quite easily and cheaply? Or might you be able to focus on one room and making that as nice and homely as you possibly can and see if that helps? It sounds like you might have moved area so in the meantime you could be saving up and checking out developments with the kind of new build you want and then if you do decide to move you know exactly what you want and you’ve got some cash behind you for fees and whatnot. 

bbat

Sounds like you really miss your old home. Maybe it's more about that than wanting anew build. If the reasons for moving weren't spscially to move on and find a new home but other things, then its understandable you miss your old home so much and know this one won't ever be the same. See how you feel when all this continuous rain has stopped though. I think I've only seen 4 days with sun since Christmas!

Ramouth

We bought a house that the last owners were only in for 6 months or so before listing.  We were a little concerned but not enough to not want to view.  Some houses are just not right for some people.  

While I would also suggest waiting to see how you feel in summer (I don’t think I could live in a new build in summer - I love the temperature stabilising properties of stone walls!), if you really know you don’t like it, there is no point making yourself miserable.

theoretica

The other side of selling is where would you move to?  I suspect you have sold your previous house and can't go back there.  Do you have your eye on a particular property?  Making your move a positive move towards somewhere else, not just away from your current house.

GDB2222

Are you simply grieving for your lost home?

FreshlyCutFlowers

Hey there, I was a FTB last year and bought an old house.
I loved it for the first 3-4 months while the weather was good. Then cold, dark and humid kicked in early which made me miss living in a small cozy flat. Suddenly all the flaws of the house became visible and I wanted to move- No matter what I did, I looked for more flaws while doing dishes, while working, while 'relaxing' in the TV room.. 

It took months before I felt at home again and whilst the weather was a big reason, the other was that I looked at other houses and realised my problems were all normal, typical old build issues that I was blowing out of proportion. 

I painted a wall like I had wanted to d, fixed some plaster issues and hung up some curtains and suddenly I had a lot more confidence that I could live here it wasn't fine work and I will need to redo the painting at some point but it made me learn from my mistakes and I took back control of the house.

I realise your case may be different but I hope you manage to do the same in your own way. 

JJR45

aoleks said:

It’s obviously personal, but I don’t think a new build would satisfy you. They’re build to a very low standard focused on maximising profits and compared to an old house, they suck big time. Invest some in your house and you’ll be fine…

Yes, you can't beat a good old 2 courses of bricks as your footings as they did in the old days. You can't beat solid walls and excessive heating costs!
Contrary to beliefs building regulations are stricter than ever. 
A lot of old houses were not built very well, that is why only a few survive, ever wonder where half the houses are from old photographs, pictures, etc.
I have had a new build and it was fine, spent nothing on it other than maintenance in the 7 years of owning it. 
We are buying new again, totally depends on the developer. (much like older houses!)

JJR45

Ramouth said:

While I would also suggest waiting to see how you feel in summer (I don’t think I could live in a new build in summer - I love the temperature stabilising properties of stone walls!), if you really know you don’t like it, there is no point making yourself miserable.

I always thought stone walls were cooler in the day but hotter at night, in the summer due to thermal mass?

Agree on not worth making yourself miserable, we stayed in a 70s house for 4 years waiting for it to grow on us, it did it in the end.
 It grew on our nerves that much we sold it.

RelievedSheff

JJR45 said:

aoleks said:

It’s obviously personal, but I don’t think a new build would satisfy you. They’re build to a very low standard focused on maximising profits and compared to an old house, they suck big time. Invest some in your house and you’ll be fine…

Yes, you can't beat a good old 2 courses of bricks as your footings as they did in the old days. You can't beat solid walls and excessive heating costs!
Contrary to beliefs building regulations are stricter than ever. 
A lot of old houses were not built very well, that is why only a few survive, ever wonder where half the houses are from old photographs, pictures, etc.
I have had a new build and it was fine, spent nothing on it other than maintenance in the 7 years of owning it. 
We are buying new again, totally depends on the developer. (much like older houses!)

Fully agree with this. We bought a new build a few years ago and love it.

We have lived in houses from various periods from a large Victorian villa, a 1930s semi, 1970s and thus new build.

The new build is by far the best built of the lot!