Feeling so boring-compared to others this xmas!

keelykat

After reading many posts about christmas-meals, going out/parties etc I am feeling like a very boring person! I only work part time right now so i'm not invited to any work do's/parties, i don't have many friends-and two dont live that local so wont see a lot of them over xmas- so not much going out with them.... there are family problems (one brother has refused to talk to me or my youngest sister for two years, and one sister fell out with my dad (not her real dad) so we dont have a lovely big get together like we used to

So theres not a lot going on over xmas, dont get me wrong i am excited about xmas still-i cant wait to spend time with my husband (only been married a year) and have a break from it all. But i feel a tad jealous of others going to nice parties/dressing up/family get togethers etc

I dont know why im suddenly feelnig down over this- i guess im just missing what i used to have (big family- id also go out with my brothers n sisters for a meal/drinks etc just generally be together)

Sorry to start a depressing post, im feeling sorry for myself someone slap me-and tell me to stop being stupid!

keely.

pandaonmyshoulder

Christmas is just sunday dinner with presents at our house. I have a lovely husband and 4 children aged 17,15,12 & 8 no other family, no close friends and no "xmas do's" so I guess I can relate to what you are saying even christmas tv is rubbish! My Xmas card and present lists are short though;)

babybug

I won't tell you to stop being stupid - I know how you feel!

I moved house to a new town with OH and we don't know anyone up here. We don't have any plans with other people for Christmas and I was feeling very sorry for myself. We've decided to be big kids and get all excited as there's just the 2 of us. Going to do all the traditions we had as kids and make a few of our own.

Try not to worry about what other people are doing, just remember how much less stress you will have without having to rush around and try and please everyone.

I'm planning to lay the table for Christmas dinner, all fancy, me and OH are going to get all dressed up and enjoy it. It's not the same as having the excitement and parties that you're used to, but it can be special in it's own way.

HTH.

Enjoy yourself hun, do what makes you happy and forget everyone else!

xxxx

jackieb

I just go to the in-laws on Christmas day and that's our visiting done usually. Christmas is hyped up and it just makes people feel inadequate. You're not being stupid. I love the run up to Christmas, but don't actually like Christmas day all that much. I hate it when adverts for Boxing day sales start to be shown on Christmas eve, and for summer holidays around New Year time.

Charlie1986

I'm not going to any christmas parties either and my christmas card and present list has a total of 7 people on it including family . I'm actually quite glad I have no parties to attend this year as choosing what to wear quite stresses me out :rolleyes: .
I shall be working christmas day, then seeing my partner, then back home for christmas dinner and presents and an early night as i'm also working boxing day, I'm quite excited about it all :rotfl: :j

taxi97w

Christmas- one day, maybe two. It will pass. You're not the only one. But many people would love to be in your shoes, to not to have the hassle of cooking and travelling and family dramas etc.

I'll be doing nowt, shopping little, eating what I like, talking to hardly anyone..

Anyway my motto of the month 'Enthusiasm, Enjoyment, Acceptance' in that order. If none of these is possible - stop and remove offending object/situation.
:beer:

needmoney

The grass isn't always greener, It used to be hectic working all of Christmas and New Year, parties, do's (not always enjoyable) Now I enjoy quieter times and don't really miss the hectic bit.

babybug has a nice idea :We've decided to be big kids and get all excited as there's just the 2 of us. I'm planning to lay the table for Christmas dinner, all fancy, me and OH are going to get all dressed up and enjoy it.

As she says - enjoy :beer:

busydaffodil1

We dont do Christmas parties either. I'm self employed and its manic right up to Christmas day. Additionally, all my family are in Disneyland Paris for xmas & new year, so OH and I are alone......to relax, eat and chill out. I like to view christmas as a time to relax and not stress out.
Wishing you a happy stress free chilled out Christmas!

keelykat

wow-didnt realise id get replies that quickly!

Thanks for the replies-i will look on the positive side and enjoy not having to rush around!

Obviously there are people in really bad situations this xmas-that makes me sad thinking about it though and depresses me even more! I did do one thing this year that made me feel a tad happier-we all did an appeal at work where we donated toys to kids in homes/hospitals and for the less well off. We filled quite a few large boxes. I hope it'll help some children be happier on xmas morning.

keely.

hannahsmummy1

Hubby & i dont live near our familes- & listening to others worrying about who they are going to spend christmas with- im glad i dont have that worry! Yeah we both miss our families & in an ideal world we would all live close & be happy & spend christmas with them, im not a fan of cooking for large numbers so i also dont have that worry either of cooking lunch! Enjoy the time for yourself & hubby! Happy Christmas!

papworth

Do you fancy a meet the neighbours party kind of thing? You can easily organise a 'mulled wine and mince pies' evening at little cost and effort.
Or how about checking out your local church? Ours has a short crib service on Christmas Eve. The children put the figures in the crib and the Christmas story is told. It's the start of Christmas for me. I guess I'm really saying it's up to you to make Christmas Christmassy for yourselves. Have a lovely time whatever you decide.