Bright Daughter But Sometimes...

PoGee

My 20-something year old daughter is bright academically but she's a feather-brain at the same time.
Example - she was applying for jobs and when she does this, she'll apply for 20 or so at a time. She got offers and the one she accepted, sent her a contract through the post...only it never arrived. After a bit of digging, found out she had clicked wrong address on drop-down box e.g. say we live at 56 Blobby Avenue but she clicked 57 in error. The employer said - yes we sent it to 57 Blobby Avenue. 
Of course them at 57 denied getting the letter.
Mind racing - she's probably done it for all 20 applications but I get the - 'you think I'm stupid' dramatics.
I contacted the Royal Mail who said they couldn't do anything as they delived to, in their eyes, the correct address and would do the same for all letters addressed to No 57 despite the postie knowing she doesn't live at 57.
I would have been fine about it but when she went to pharmacy to get a migraine painkiller that pharmacists can issue without a GP prescription, they put her address down as 57 Blobby Avenue with a WRONG dob, saying 'that's what we have on our system' (DOB and address). GP has correct address and DOB so don't know where pharmacy got the misinformation from. It's a type of job that requires background checks so that certificate may well have gone there also but cannot get daughter to check this out with Disclosure people.
If identity fraud does happen, I'll be the one that has to sort it out.
Is there anything I can do re neighbours at No 57?

JGB1955

PoGee said:

Is there anything I can do re neighbours at No 57?

Move your daughter into their house?

Silvertabby

Take a cake to No 57, apologise for your gormless daughter, and ask that they pass any mail to you.

Otherwise, No 57 may appear on these boards saying that " a neighbour is using their address instead of her own, and they are concerned about her motives".

tacpot12

Your daughter can and should require the Pharmacy to correct her data under GDPR. One of the benefits of GDPR is that you have a right to have inaccurate date corrected. 

Correcting the information with the employer and asking them to resend the contract would also be appropriate. However, the employer may realise that your daughter is someone who doesn't check important data before pressing 'Save/Send', and may not want to employ her. It might be a valuable lesson learned. 

Pollycat

PoGee said:

My 20-something year old daughter is bright academically but she's a feather-brain at the same time.
Example - she was applying for jobs and when she does this, she'll apply for 20 or so at a time. She got offers and the one she accepted, sent her a contract through the post...only it never arrived. After a bit of digging, found out she had clicked wrong address on drop-down box e.g. say we live at 56 Blobby Avenue but she clicked 57 in error. The employer said - yes we sent it to 57 Blobby Avenue. 
Of course them at 57 denied getting the letter.
Mind racing - she's probably done it for all 20 applications but I get the - 'you think I'm stupid' dramatics.
I contacted the Royal Mail who said they couldn't do anything as they delived to, in their eyes, the correct address and would do the same for all letters addressed to No 57 despite the postie knowing she doesn't live at 57.
I would have been fine about it but when she went to pharmacy to get a migraine painkiller that pharmacists can issue without a GP prescription, they put her address down as 57 Blobby Avenue with a WRONG dob, saying 'that's what we have on our system' (DOB and address). GP has correct address and DOB so don't know where pharmacy got the misinformation from. It's a type of job that requires background checks so that certificate may well have gone there also but cannot get daughter to check this out with Disclosure people.
If identity fraud does happen, I'll be the one that has to sort it out.
Is there anything I can do re neighbours at No 57?

Why 'of course'?
Do you have a poor relationship with them?
I'd work on trying to sort that out.
Maybe it's time to tell your daughter that if she's giving out the wrong address when it's something so important, she really isn't that bright and to cut the dramatics and concentrate on what she's doing in the future.

I occasionally receive mail for a different address - sometimes next door and sometimes for a house that is next in numeric sequence to mine but is 200 yards further down the road. 
I always repost to the correct house.
Apart from some hand delivered stuff for the house 200 yards away where I'd redelivered letters from the same person with a note on to tell them to advise the sender of the correct location but they still kept coming. After the 6th or so, I just put it back into the Royal Mail postbox and left them to deal with no postage payment.
They are not my 'next door neighbour'.

Mojisola

PoGee said:

My 20-something year old daughter is bright academically but she's a feather-brain at the same time.

If identity fraud does happen, I'll be the one that has to sort it out.

And will probably stay that way while you keep sorting out her mess.

If she had to deal with the consequences of being feather-brained, she would learn techniques to be more organised and precise.

I've met people like this who can perform perfectly well at work but have people rushing round them in the private life because they do daft things.

Undervalued

PoGee said:

My 20-something year old daughter is bright academically but she's a feather-brain at the same time.
Example - she was applying for jobs and when she does this, she'll apply for 20 or so at a time. She got offers and the one she accepted, sent her a contract through the post...only it never arrived. After a bit of digging, found out she had clicked wrong address on drop-down box e.g. say we live at 56 Blobby Avenue but she clicked 57 in error. The employer said - yes we sent it to 57 Blobby Avenue. 
Of course them at 57 denied getting the letter.
Mind racing - she's probably done it for all 20 applications but I get the - 'you think I'm stupid' dramatics.
I contacted the Royal Mail who said they couldn't do anything as they delived to, in their eyes, the correct address and would do the same for all letters addressed to No 57 despite the postie knowing she doesn't live at 57.
I would have been fine about it but when she went to pharmacy to get a migraine painkiller that pharmacists can issue without a GP prescription, they put her address down as 57 Blobby Avenue with a WRONG dob, saying 'that's what we have on our system' (DOB and address). GP has correct address and DOB so don't know where pharmacy got the misinformation from. It's a type of job that requires background checks so that certificate may well have gone there also but cannot get daughter to check this out with Disclosure people.
If identity fraud does happen, I'll be the one that has to sort it out.
Is there anything I can do re neighbours at No 57?

Apart from asking nicely, nothing at all.

As I understand it it is perfectly legal to do nothing with incorrectly delivered mail. Obviously if they fraudulently misused information it contained that would be a crime but I don't think there is any legal obligation to forward it or return it to the sender.

The postie doesn't "know" that there isn't a reason why she is choosing to have her mail sent to a different address. For all he knows she may be getting some mail she doesn't want her parents to see and has asked a neighbour if she can use their address. It happens and it is none of the postie's business.

MalMonroe

Hi, I am not trying to be disrespectful in any way but has anyone ever considered that your daughter could suffer from ADHD? It's very difficult to recognise and diagnose and adults can have it. 

I only ask this because from what you have said, she does appear to display some of the symptoms, as per this link -

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-adhd/symptoms/

There is no shame in being diagnosed - at least I hope not because I was diagnosed myself last year at the grand old age of 70. Yes, at last. I was described as being a very intelligent woman (like your daughter, I am very bright academically) who also has ADHD. It very often isn't diagnosed at all, with people often being described as 'dizzy' and 'disorganised'. I'm happy to have finally been given a reason for my dizzy lifestyle!

Think about it.

Maybe it's time to start letting your daughter sort out her own problems now she's 20+ and also why not try to encourage better relationships with your neighbours at number 57? I only have 13 neighbours on the small crescent where I live and thank goodness we are all on friendly - although not overfriendly - terms.  

jimbo6977

MalMonroe said:

Hi, I am not trying to be disrespectful in any way but has anyone ever considered that your daughter could suffer from ADHD? It's very difficult to recognise and diagnose and adults can have it. 

I only ask this because from what you have said, she does appear to display some of the symptoms, as per this link -

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-adhd/symptoms/

There is no shame in being diagnosed - at least I hope not because I was diagnosed myself last year at the grand old age of 70. Yes, at last. I was described as being a very intelligent woman (like your daughter, I am very bright academically) who also has ADHD. It very often isn't diagnosed at all, with people often being described as 'dizzy' and 'disorganised'. I'm happy to have finally been given a reason for my dizzy lifestyle!

Think about it.

Maybe it's time to start letting your daughter sort out her own problems now she's 20+ and also why not try to encourage better relationships with your neighbours at number 57? I only have 13 neighbours on the small crescent where I live and thank goodness we are all on friendly - although not overfriendly - terms.  

I was about to ask whether the OP's daughter might be autistic in some way. 

olgadapolga

jimbo6977 said:

MalMonroe said:

Hi, I am not trying to be disrespectful in any way but has anyone ever considered that your daughter could suffer from ADHD? It's very difficult to recognise and diagnose and adults can have it. 

I only ask this because from what you have said, she does appear to display some of the symptoms, as per this link -

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-adhd/symptoms/

There is no shame in being diagnosed - at least I hope not because I was diagnosed myself last year at the grand old age of 70. Yes, at last. I was described as being a very intelligent woman (like your daughter, I am very bright academically) who also has ADHD. It very often isn't diagnosed at all, with people often being described as 'dizzy' and 'disorganised'. I'm happy to have finally been given a reason for my dizzy lifestyle!

Think about it.

Maybe it's time to start letting your daughter sort out her own problems now she's 20+ and also why not try to encourage better relationships with your neighbours at number 57? I only have 13 neighbours on the small crescent where I live and thank goodness we are all on friendly - although not overfriendly - terms.  

I was about to ask whether the OP's daughter might be autistic in some way. 

Not necessarily autism, other things like dyspraxia can cause people to be "disorganised". 

Silvertabby

Or is it because today's youngsters just aren't taught 'practical' things ?

Lad next door has a MSc in Physics - but struggles with even the simplest of household tasks.