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Bright Daughter But Sometimes...

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My 20-something year old daughter is bright academically but she's a feather-brain at the same time.
Example - she was applying for jobs and when she does this, she'll apply for 20 or so at a time. She got offers and the one she accepted, sent her a contract through the post...only it never arrived. After a bit of digging, found out she had clicked wrong address on drop-down box e.g. say we live at 56 Blobby Avenue but she clicked 57 in error. The employer said - yes we sent it to 57 Blobby Avenue. 
Of course them at 57 denied getting the letter.
Mind racing - she's probably done it for all 20 applications but I get the - 'you think I'm stupid' dramatics.
I contacted the Royal Mail who said they couldn't do anything as they delived to, in their eyes, the correct address and would do the same for all letters addressed to No 57 despite the postie knowing she doesn't live at 57.
I would have been fine about it but when she went to pharmacy to get a migraine painkiller that pharmacists can issue without a GP prescription, they put her address down as 57 Blobby Avenue with a WRONG dob, saying 'that's what we have on our system' (DOB and address). GP has correct address and DOB so don't know where pharmacy got the misinformation from. It's a type of job that requires background checks so that certificate may well have gone there also but cannot get daughter to check this out with Disclosure people.
If identity fraud does happen, I'll be the one that has to sort it out.
Is there anything I can do re neighbours at No 57?
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  • MalMonroe
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    Hi, I am not trying to be disrespectful in any way but has anyone ever considered that your daughter could suffer from ADHD? It's very difficult to recognise and diagnose and adults can have it. 

    I only ask this because from what you have said, she does appear to display some of the symptoms, as per this link -

    https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-adhd/symptoms/

    There is no shame in being diagnosed - at least I hope not because I was diagnosed myself last year at the grand old age of 70. Yes, at last. I was described as being a very intelligent woman (like your daughter, I am very bright academically) who also has ADHD. It very often isn't diagnosed at all, with people often being described as 'dizzy' and 'disorganised'. I'm happy to have finally been given a reason for my dizzy lifestyle!

    Think about it.

    Maybe it's time to start letting your daughter sort out her own problems now she's 20+ and also why not try to encourage better relationships with your neighbours at number 57? I only have 13 neighbours on the small crescent where I live and thank goodness we are all on friendly - although not overfriendly - terms.  
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  • jimbo6977
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    MalMonroe said:
    Hi, I am not trying to be disrespectful in any way but has anyone ever considered that your daughter could suffer from ADHD? It's very difficult to recognise and diagnose and adults can have it. 

    I only ask this because from what you have said, she does appear to display some of the symptoms, as per this link -

    https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-adhd/symptoms/

    There is no shame in being diagnosed - at least I hope not because I was diagnosed myself last year at the grand old age of 70. Yes, at last. I was described as being a very intelligent woman (like your daughter, I am very bright academically) who also has ADHD. It very often isn't diagnosed at all, with people often being described as 'dizzy' and 'disorganised'. I'm happy to have finally been given a reason for my dizzy lifestyle!

    Think about it.

    Maybe it's time to start letting your daughter sort out her own problems now she's 20+ and also why not try to encourage better relationships with your neighbours at number 57? I only have 13 neighbours on the small crescent where I live and thank goodness we are all on friendly - although not overfriendly - terms.  
    I was about to ask whether the OP's daughter might be autistic in some way. 
  • olgadapolga
    olgadapolga Posts: 2,279 Forumite
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    jimbo6977 said:
    MalMonroe said:
    Hi, I am not trying to be disrespectful in any way but has anyone ever considered that your daughter could suffer from ADHD? It's very difficult to recognise and diagnose and adults can have it. 

    I only ask this because from what you have said, she does appear to display some of the symptoms, as per this link -

    https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-adhd/symptoms/

    There is no shame in being diagnosed - at least I hope not because I was diagnosed myself last year at the grand old age of 70. Yes, at last. I was described as being a very intelligent woman (like your daughter, I am very bright academically) who also has ADHD. It very often isn't diagnosed at all, with people often being described as 'dizzy' and 'disorganised'. I'm happy to have finally been given a reason for my dizzy lifestyle!

    Think about it.

    Maybe it's time to start letting your daughter sort out her own problems now she's 20+ and also why not try to encourage better relationships with your neighbours at number 57? I only have 13 neighbours on the small crescent where I live and thank goodness we are all on friendly - although not overfriendly - terms.  
    I was about to ask whether the OP's daughter might be autistic in some way. 
    Not necessarily autism, other things like dyspraxia can cause people to be "disorganised". 
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