Handing in notice earlier now someone else is leaving too?

pjcox2005

Alanp said:

There was a post on here about loyalty to a company, someone posted a poem called. The indispensable man, it’s very apt in this case..

The poem is a good reminder, nobody should think they are indispensable and make sure they are getting out of work what they need for the hours surrendered - money, challenge etc whilst balancing what else they want like home life. Not always possible for everyone i know.

I still think you can have a level of connection with your company/colleagues/management which means you don't have to distrust them like others on here do. If you give a bit, then I tend to expect a bit back in return which is typically how it's gone for me over the years.

74jax

pjcox2005 said:

Alanp said:

There was a post on here about loyalty to a company, someone posted a poem called. The indispensable man, it’s very apt in this case..

The poem is a good reminder, nobody should think they are indispensable and make sure they are getting out of work what they need for the hours surrendered - money, challenge etc whilst balancing what else they want like home life. Not always possible for everyone i know.

I still think you can have a level of connection with your company/colleagues/management which means you don't have to distrust them like others on here do. If you give a bit, then I tend to expect a bit back in return which is typically how it's gone for me over the years.

I agree. I had a great relationship with my old company and director and it was very respected on both sides. However I handed my notice in last year when that respect was lost. (I did post on the loyalty thread too).  I could see his point of view, and I could see mine. Ultimately its as you say, a balancing act.
I hope op hols off and hand the notice in her own timescales. 

FuffyCat

Hi all, an update on what happened last week...

I did indeed buckle and tell my line manager before I had the official contract, this was because we had scheduled one-on-one meetings. I wanted the company to have time to plan and get adverts out for the role and I didn't want to lie to my manager face-to-face. He took it really really well and was really supportive of me and wished me all the best. There was a small attempt to keep me, and offered to look for a similar role within the company (I'm changing roles in my new job), however knew I'd already made up my mind. 

Luckily, the contract came the next day anyway and I have now officially handed in my notice.

I absolutely don't think I'm indispensable, quite the opposite. After talking it through with my manager and the other colleague leaving, we are going to delegate the work among the remaining team and spend our remaining month training these team members to do the job. I originally thought my manager wouldn't want the team to take over which is why I was worried. 

I believe the reason I was so stressed about this was due to my past experiences. I used to work in a toxic workplace, where once you handed in your notice you were shunned and hated, by not just the manager but the rest of the team. I met my partner in this workplace, and after he left our manager bitched about how he didn't do any work in his notice period, even though he stayed an extra month (past his notice) to finish a project (my manager didn't know we were dating). This same manager tried to give me a disciplinary for replying-all to an email where he asked our opinion on whether we should work from home at the very beginning of the pandemic after we'd had a group discussion earlier that day. I just obviously had differing opinions to him, we were software engineers and thought our working was essential so we needed to be in the office?! He ended up dropping it, but I would have taken him to a tribunal if he had not.

The moral of the story is most people are understanding and want you to be happy but there are a small minority of !!!!!! bosses that will make you feel like !!!!!! if you "betray" them.

Thanks all for the replies

P.s. I didn't want to stay here unless they were going to pay me like 3x as much it wouldn't be worth it. My new role is with the university, shorter hours, more holiday (37 + BH), sweet pension, wfh, flexi-time. Flexi-time was off the table with my current role due to the amount of collaboration needed with the US