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Tlctrickster
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What do people do?
When you meet the right person and move in , They have children that they still pay for, maybe there's debts, Do you share your money?
Do you put in in together or keep your own money? How do you divide bills and child maintenance?
When you meet the right person and move in , They have children that they still pay for, maybe there's debts, Do you share your money?
Do you put in in together or keep your own money? How do you divide bills and child maintenance?
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Keep your own bank account. Whatever money you have coming in should still go into that account.
Rent or mortgage, council tax, gas, electric, phone, broadband, water etc probably should be half each. Whoever pays those bills already, the other one of you should pay them their share. In time a joint bank account that is for the bills is a good idea. You’d both pay something into it every time you get paid.
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Teapot55 said:Rent or mortgage, council tax, gas, electric, phone, broadband, water etc probably should be half each. Whoever pays those bills already, the other one of you should pay them their share.
Also, off topic but always good advice, make a will.3 -
Teapot55 said:
Rent or mortgage, council tax, gas, electric, phone, broadband, water etc probably should be half each.As your "probably" appears to recognise, 50:50 might not work for every couple. My nephew, for example, lives with his partner. They don't share bills equally. There's a considerable disparity in their income, so they decided that it would be fairer to split the common bills in proportion to their income. His salary is about three times hers, so he pays about 3/4 of the bills and she pays about 1/4.The important thing is to discuss the subject between you and reach an agreement that both of you.can accept. It might not be perfect for either of you, but any perception of unfairness on either side can become a festering sore over time. You might start by separately thinking about the way that you'd like to do things, then look at each other's proposals. Who knows? You might even both reach the same conclusions independently. That'd be great!
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Teapot55 said:Keep your own bank account. Whatever money you have coming in should still go into that account.
Rent or mortgage, council tax, gas, electric, phone, broadband, water etc probably should be half each. Whoever pays those bills already, the other one of you should pay them their share. In time a joint bank account that is for the bills is a good idea. You’d both pay something into it every time you get paid.1 -
Teapot55 said:In time a joint bank account that is for the bills is a good idea. You’d both pay something into it every time you get paid.
I knew two men. Let's call them Bill and Ben. Both were aged about 20. They couldn't afford to live on their own at that stage, but both wanted to move out of their parental homes. They'd been friends since primary school. They moved into a flat together and set up a joint account to pay the common bills. After a while, Ben disappeared. Bill discovered that not only had Ben emptied the joint account, but he'd run up a hefty overdraft. Nobody knew where Ben went. Bill found that he was liable for the debt on the joint account.
This was about 40 years ago, and I haven't heard anything more of Ben since then.
They were in the same year at the same school as me, as it happens, and that's how I knew them.
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When I met my wife we moved in pretty quickly, and literally just shared everything from day one. I guess in our cases we knew each other was right so we didn't care about money.I was earning 5x what she was. Still didn't affect anything and hasn't some 25 years later! Still my best friend and forever partner. Funny, a family member with a money oriented mindset has been divorced 3 times and always keeps their money separate. Baffles me how money can prevail over love but hey, that's the beauty of being individual.1
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