Accomadation for ASD socially anxious student

Hope this is ok to post here, just thinking there's probs loads of students read and maybe someone could help? DS is hopefully going to York St John as a mature student, just wondered if anyone had studied there and could help us choose accomodation. He's 24, would need an en-suite as he has OCD along with Asperger's syndrome and social anxiety. He is desperate to go and meet friends and have a social life (he has none at the moment) Not sure whether to go with uni accomodation, one is only for mature students but doesn't seem to have a communal area. Might suit him better as may be quieter (he doesn't drink) but then how would he meet people? The nicest ones seem to be private , still student accomodation but not run by uni. Would be grateful for any opinions tia

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  • Spendless
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    edited 12 July 2021 at 9:22AM
    Hi, I can only answer from my own son's (no additional needs) experience of going to Uni (not in York). Mine went into halls. We visited all available and I wrote pros and cons of each. We ended up going for the mid priced that had an en-suite. Not all accommodation has a communal relaxing area, some only have a shared kitchen/dining space. Son was in a place that had 3 floors with 12 rooms each floor,  staircase through the middle and a kitchen diner per each side of 6 rooms. This is where son made his friends in the first year and his girlfriend is someone he met there, who lived in the same accommodation. We dismissed the larger halls (more like a high rise flat, just not quite as big) due to cost, but from people who went there  they didn't get to know the other residents as well due to the larger numbers. For the 2nd year DS moved in with 4 people from his part of the halls plus 2 from another floor.

    Would your son be ok living with a lot of 18 or 19 year olds or better with nearer his own age? Would he socialise even if he didn't drink alcohol, go to the pub with others and stick to soft drinks? Mine has never been interested, but there'd  be different things to join plus his course to make friends on.
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    Spendless said:
    Hi, I can only answer from my own son's (no additional needs) experience of going to Uni (not in York). Mine went into halls. We visited all available and I wrote pros and cons of each. We ended up going for the mid priced that had an en-suite. Not all accommodation has a communal relaxing area, some only have a shared kitchen/dining space. Son was in a place that had 3 floors with 12 rooms each floor,  staircase through the middle and a kitchen diner per each side of 6 rooms. This is where son made his friends in the first year and his girlfriend is someone he met there, who lived in the same accommodation. We dismissed the larger halls (more like a high rise flat, just not quite as big) due to cost, but from people who went there  they didn't get to know the other residents as well due to the larger numbers. For the 2nd year DS moved in with 4 people from his part of the halls plus 2 from another floor.

    Would your son be ok living with a lot of 18 or 19 year olds or better with nearer his own age? Would he socialise even if he didn't drink alcohol, go to the pub with others and stick to soft drinks? Mine has never been interested, but there'd  be different things to join plus his course to make friends on.
    Thanks so much for the reply, he would love to socialise, just finds it hard. Lots of things to think about there really appreciate it
  • theoretica
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    York St John have disability support and access officers - I wonder if they have been asked similar questions previously and may have useful input.
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  • mazworld15
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    York St John have disability support and access officers - I wonder if they have been asked similar questions previously and may have useful input.
    Thank you, I did ask but they think all of the accommodation would be good
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