gave birth to prem baby alone/no pain relief

nicola1982_2

That's awful. I know too how difficult some hospital staff can be. I was diagnosed with cervical incompetance and put into complete panic. The doctor asked me to go on bedrest and inform a m/w if I felt pain. Firstly they didn't tell the catering staff so I witnessed a huge argument about me which was fun. Then when I buzzed to say I was in pain a student told me she'd get the m/w who I then overheard saying 'oh she just under observation - leave her alone and she'll fall asleep'. I was so angry if I hadn't seen the consultant the following day (who was fantastic) I would've discharged myself.

vixarooni

God that is awful. how did you do it? Im 21 and counldnt even imagine that happening to me.

Why dont you get in touch with your local news team. You know south east today or london today whatever they call it where you live. Im sure they would do something, and press attention will lead so something im sure?

kathy206

^^ agree with above post, also go to local MP (can't hurt can it?) So very very sorry this has happened to you. Has your complaint gone through just locally or have you gone further? Have a look at this
http://www.dh.gov.uk/en/Policyandguidance/Organisationpolicy/Complaintspolicy/NHScomplaintsprocedure/index.htm
as it tells you how to take your complaint higher.
My heartfelt best wishes to you and your family
Kathyxxx

hunnybeanz

kathy206, i've been trying for a couple of months to find out who my ward mp is.... but no joy... :cool:
i've actually spoken to the medical ombudsman on the phone as nhs procedure went right through, with no apology or explainations or anything... just a load of excuses, and they keep saying "we only have your word against the nurses (plural)" so they are giving them the benefit of the doubt, which honestly, i think is wrong.
if someone has made a complaint like this, and against so many of the staff, then the staff in question should face some sort of consequence, but they've admitted quite freely that the trust doesnt implement a disciplinary system.

spoke to the ombudsman about 2 or 3 months ago, and not a peep from them either yet.


vixerooni, i'm only 21 aswell, i was 20 when all this was going on lol!
i've got every intention of going to the papers if they dont come up with some satisfactory answers, but to do that, i need to exhaust every complaints procedure... :rolleyes:



brandnewday, i still havent bonded with my daughter because of all this, i feel as though i just incubated her for 5 months. because it was a really difficult, long, painful, bloody (etc lol), labour that really made me resent her i think, and that's lasting right up until now. am currently working really hard with a family support worker and my health visitor to try and like her... but it's hard.
i dealt with the emotions of having had a miscarriage at about 12 weeks (all the blood, waters, pains etc) and then suddenly there was this baby, alive and ill, needing to be cared for.... it still feels as though she's not mine.
i need to get my head around her being the same baby i was pregnant with.... hope that makes sense?!



jo-r, the hospital have "misplaced" my notes. conveinient. some stuff had already been changed before baby was discharged from scbu, a lot of stuff was never noted in the first place (eg. i already had ptsd and pnd) and as soon as i put the complaint in with PALS (against my better judgement, as they are a branch of the same trust) all my notes were misplaced during filing updates...... surprise surprise!


boysmum3, how awful for you to have gone through all that! and you are still suffering with the pnd, i know it wont make you much better, but you're not alone with that! there's a site i have used for the last two years, best thing that ever happened to me, if you would like details, please pm me?


thank you all for your replies, and for the links to other sites, i'm just sort of stuck in a limbo at the minute, what with hospital not willing to budge, and ombudsman being so bloody slow!!!

:rolleyes:

~Chameleon~

hunnybeanz wrote: »

kathy206, i've been trying for a couple of months to find out who my ward mp is.... but no joy... :cool:

What a horrendous story, I really feel for you having experienced this and can't begin to imagine how it's affected you. I've got a link here that will help you find your local MP. Just type in your post code and it will tell you who they are - http://www.writetothem.com/

And the very best of luck in trying to get some answers and, if nothing else, an apology at least for the terrible way you've been treated <hugs> :A

jackieb

Is it possible that you miscarried a twin? I miscarried one baby at 12 weeks, and I bled until I was 6 months pregnant. It doesn't excuse the treatment you received. Just wondered if they mentioned if this was a possibility.

TASHMA

Just wanted to send ((hugs))! Hope you eventually get the responses you need AND deserve!!

poppyscorner

Hi OP just wanted to send you a hug.

As someone who has also suffered trauma at the hands of the NHS whilst pregnant with my first child who died whilst still inside me and was born stillborn because the NHS decided I was not in labour and pushed me to bed in a side room alone with 2 x co codamol. My feelings are also that they all pee in the same pot and scratch each others backs I work for the NHS in a different field and would not dare to treat people the way I have been treat.

I went through the complaints procedure and the response I got was a load of bull with them alledging I was awful and swearing at them (something which I would never do) I sought advice from a solicitor and she told me I would never get an apology and the hospital and I had to prove they cocked up and then they may pay out up to 7k I did not want money I wanted an apology and for them to admit they made a mistake and I was very angry with the whole thing if I am honest I still am almost 6yrs on it has never gone away however 7k was an insult to my daughters life she was adored before her birth and much wanted but they do not care about it.

As another poster said have you had a look at your notes I had copies of mine made and they really shocked me things in there totally unrelated to my daughters or my own condition.

In the end I dropped it I decided they werent going to hurt me or my hubby anymore with lies and trying to wriggle out of it and I did not want their blood money there is a culture of immediately assuming people are after money when that is not the case a simple heartfelt apology would have done me.

What happened to you is truly awful and you have my sympathies as well as admiration for trying to tackle the system I wish you and your family well

Poppy xx