Nightmare Neighbour

moneysavinghero

NameUnavailable said:

moneysavinghero said:

Maybe they have no intention to move. Maybe they want to put it up for sale, find a buyer, then on the forms declare the nightmare neighbour next door and wait for the sale to fall through. Then try to take legal action against you because you made her sale fall through.

How will that help though? They still have to prove everything AND pay for legal action. Not sure what actual basis they could proceed on.

Not saying they have thought it through. Not saying they will ever actual bring legal action. Sometimes crazy people just like to have something they can threaten people with everytime they have another slanging match.

Johnnyh123

I’d be laughing my tits off at them.  There are far worse neighbour situations than this.  The fact they’ve gone to the police (which is a perfectly reasonable thing to do for a law abiding citizen) tells you that you are under absolutely no threat of physical violence or intimidation.  The worse case scenario is always living in fear.  This should not be the case for you now.

You need to realise you are being bullied and most of it is going on in your own head.  Go on the offensive.  Tell your kids to tell anyone and everyone in their school they know that their parents are police informants and tramps with mattresses in their garden.  They will never live it down.  Start going in your front at every opportunity to water your plants and make sure you’re looking in their direction, smiling when they appear.

jazzyja

You've said a few times you don't leave your house......life is too short to be staying in because of some odd balls next door. I'd be going about my life as I usually would and tell my kids to give her kids as good as they get if they want to start taking it to school! 

Davesnave

Johnnyh123 said:

You need to realise you are being bullied and most of it is going on in your own head.  Go on the offensive.  Tell your kids to tell anyone and everyone in their school they know that their parents are police informants and tramps with mattresses in their garden.

I'm sure the OP would be glad to weaponise their children and the school would also welcome the extension of a petty neighbour dispute. Perhaps they could turn it into an end of term musical?

If much of the problem lies in personal reactions, then surely it's up to the adults concerned to deal with those in an adult manner.

DayDreamerandGeneralWaster

moneysavinghero said:

Maybe they have no intention to move. Maybe they want to put it up for sale, find a buyer, then on the forms declare the nightmare neighbour next door and wait for the sale to fall through. Then try to take legal action against you because you made her sale fall through.

I don't think the OP needs something else to worry about.

She is just a bully and is trying to scare you. 

Scotbot

moneysavinghero said:

Maybe they have no intention to move. Maybe they want to put it up for sale, find a buyer, then on the forms declare the nightmare neighbour next door and wait for the sale to fall through. Then try to take legal action against you because you made her sale fall through.

Legally they don't have a leg to stand on. First they would have to win a civil case for harassment and then the initial outcome woukd be an injunction not damages. It would cost them in legal fees too. OP should talk to citizens advice who can talk her through what the neighbours can and can't do in the case of harassment.

Falafels

There is nothing they can do, apart from mouth off. Let them, and get on with your life.

I've known neighbours like this threaten legal action right, left and centre to anyone who happens to be in the way - and it's all a pile of *******. Even if you were the worst neighbours on earth, they would have to provide a large amount of evidence to the effect that you were responsible for their property being devalued/sale falling through AND they'd need to prove that they'd made significant efforts to resolve any disputes before recourse to the law.

Ain't going to happen.

Stop worrying, focus on the fact that they're looking to move, and keep your own property looking lovely and be very smiley to any visitors - to reassure any prospective purchasers that they'll be coming to a nice neighbourhood.

Wishing them veryveryvery good luck with their sale! 

GDB2222

"The police told us to just stay away from each other and she will tell the neigbours the same thing. "

That seems such sensible advice. Why, on Earth, have the OP and their neighbours not simply followed it? 


At least, they can hardly complain about heavy-handed policing.

Adsta

OP didn't you mention one of the other Neighbours said that this family bullying you said they are a nightmare etc? Surely they and other Neighbours would tell the truth and be on your side as they can see what is really going on. 

Speak to these other Neighbours, I certainly wouldn't let it stop you from enjoying your own home. Ignore the Neighbours and enjoy your front garden. If the nightmare Neighbours approach you, just do not engage and ignore them. If they carry on kindly ask them to leave you alone. As others have mentioned keep note of these, I would not be worried in the slightest against any legal action. They will need evidence and actual proof, not hearsay

But fingers crossed they move!