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Big debt, don’t know where to start!
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Jclayton28
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Hi everyone, hoping you can help, I’ve spoken with money advise service but they didn’t really help me.
I have 3 types of debt, credit cards, personal loan and HMRC corporation tax debt. I’ve been putting my head in the sand for a few years now, several things have happened, bought a house which needed basically everything doing (hence the loan) and this maxed all the cards too. We then had a baby which again put a strain on the finances. My wife is now a stay at home mum so no income from her side.
I have 3 types of debt, credit cards, personal loan and HMRC corporation tax debt. I’ve been putting my head in the sand for a few years now, several things have happened, bought a house which needed basically everything doing (hence the loan) and this maxed all the cards too. We then had a baby which again put a strain on the finances. My wife is now a stay at home mum so no income from her side.
Where I’ve been embarrassed to reach out for help is that my income is actually quite high, but with it I’ve now got proportionally high outgoings too!
It’s got to the point now where two of my 4 credit cards have contacted me to say that because I’ve been in persistent debt for so long they’re going to stop the cards. HMRC are also contacting my by mail regularly.
My question is where do I start?! Do I prioritise HMRC and keep paying minimum on the cards? Do I blitz trying to clear the cards so that 6 months down the line I’ll feel the benefit of that and have extra cash each month to put towards HMRC? Do I take out a secured loan to consolidate everything or pay off HMRC? I just don’t know where to turn or what to do.
thank you in advance
james
My question is where do I start?! Do I prioritise HMRC and keep paying minimum on the cards? Do I blitz trying to clear the cards so that 6 months down the line I’ll feel the benefit of that and have extra cash each month to put towards HMRC? Do I take out a secured loan to consolidate everything or pay off HMRC? I just don’t know where to turn or what to do.
thank you in advance
james
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Please don't consolidate with a secured loan.
Can you post a statement of affairs for us?
https://www.lemonfool.co.uk/financecalculators/soa.php
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[font=courier new][b]Statement of Affairs and Personal Balance Sheet[/b][b]Household Information[/b]Number of adults in household........... 2Number of children in household......... 1Number of cars owned.................... 1[b]Monthly Income Details[/b]Monthly income after tax................ 10000Partners monthly income after tax....... 0Benefits................................ 0Other income............................ 0[b]Total monthly income.................... 10000[/b][b]Monthly Expense Details[/b]Mortgage................................ 980Secured/HP loan repayments.............. 211Rent.................................... 0Management charge (leasehold property).. 0Council tax............................. 158Electricity............................. 75Gas..................................... 75Oil..................................... 0Water rates............................. 50Telephone (land line)................... 0Mobile phone............................ 160TV Licence.............................. 12Satellite/Cable TV...................... 150Internet Services....................... 0Groceries etc. ......................... 500Clothing................................ 0Petrol/diesel........................... 0Road tax................................ 60Car Insurance........................... 120Car maintenance (including MOT)......... 0Car parking............................. 0Other travel............................ 0Childcare/nursery....................... 0Other child related expenses............ 40Medical (prescriptions, dentist etc).... 0Pet insurance/vet bills................. 150Buildings insurance..................... 35Contents insurance...................... 0Life assurance ......................... 44Other insurance......................... 30Presents (birthday, christmas etc)...... 0Haircuts................................ 0Entertainment........................... 0Holiday................................. 0Emergency fund.......................... 0[b]Total monthly expenses.................. 2850[/b][b]Assets[/b]Cash.................................... 0House value (Gross)..................... 360000Shares and bonds........................ 0Car(s).................................. 1Other assets............................ 0[b]Total Assets............................ 360001[/b][b]Secured & HP Debts[/b]Description....................Debt......Monthly...APRMortgage...................... 240000...(980)......1.8Hire Purchase (HP) debt ...... 12000....(211)......4[b]Total secured & HP debts...... 252000....-.........- [/b][b]Unsecured Debts[/b]Description....................Debt......Monthly...APRCredit card....................14000.....300.......12.9Credit card ...................8000......200.......16.9Credit card ...................2500......75........16.9HMRC debt......................50000.....0.........0Loan...........................29000.....541.......14.9Credit card....................2500......75........16.9[b]Total unsecured debts..........106000....1191......- [/b][b]Monthly Budget Summary[/b]Total monthly income.................... 10,000Expenses (including HP & secured debts). 2,850Available for debt repayments........... 7,150Monthly UNsecured debt repayments....... 1,191[b]Amount left after debt repayments....... 5,959[/b][b]Personal Balance Sheet Summary[/b]Total assets (things you own)........... 360,001Total HP & Secured debt................. -252,000Total Unsecured debt.................... -106,000[b]Net Assets.............................. 2,001[/b][i]Created using the SOA calculator at www.LemonFool.co.uk.Reproduced on Moneysavingexpert with permission, using other browser.[/i][/font]0
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Hi, you say "Hi everyone, hoping you can help, I’ve spoken with money advise service but they didn’t really help me."
That is very unusual indeed. Have you spoken to anyone at StepChange? Link here : https://www.stepchange.org/
StepChange CAN and WILL help you with any financial problem or worry. You are asking questions on this site that the advisors at StepChange are asked every single day. You have already prepared a comprehensive statement of account so you have that ready to discuss with an advisor.
You ask where to start and I would say please start by contacting StepChange. And go through all your problems with a named advisor who will be allocated to you. I have been in terrible financial trouble myself in the past and I know how it can make you feel. Sometimes it's difficult to talk to people on the phone about all the things that are worrying you and getting you down. But they REALLY can help! They do not judge you and there is no need to be embarrassed.
Do give them another chance because they helped me so much. Of course it is not an instant solution, nobody can offer that but I am now debt free, having come out of the other end of a Debt Relief Order. It stayed on my credit report for six years, as does bankruptcy but it was worth it.
StepChange - in common with the other debt help agencies - are authorised to help with arranging solutions and that is also really beneficial. You've taken the first step and you've put a lot of personal information on here (and had 95 views so far) so why not try talking to someone in a confidential manner about your problems? Also, have you shared everything with your wife? You are in a partnership and she deserves to know and share your worries. It isn't fair to keep her in the dark. You just keep saying 'I' but there are two adults here.Please note - taken from the Forum Rules and amended for my own personal use (with thanks) : It is up to you to investigate, check, double-check and check yet again before you make any decisions or take any action based on any information you glean from any of my posts. Although I do carry out careful research before posting and never intend to mislead or supply out-of-date or incorrect information, please do not rely 100% on what you are reading. Verify everything in order to protect yourself as you are responsible for any action you consequently take.0 -
Do you really have almost £6000 a month left over?
There seems to be a few categories left at £0.
Clothing................................ 0Petrol/diesel........................... 0
Contents insurance...................... 0Presents (birthday, christmas etc)...... 0Haircuts................................ 0Entertainment........................... 0Holiday................................. 0How's it going, AKA, Nutwatch? - 12 month spends to date = 2.60% of current retirement "pot" (as at end May 2025)1 -
Sea_Shell said:Do you really have almost £6000 a month left over?
There seems to be a few categories left at £0.
Clothing................................ 0Petrol/diesel........................... 0
Contents insurance...................... 0Presents (birthday, christmas etc)...... 0Haircuts................................ 0Entertainment........................... 0Holiday................................. 00 -
That's quite a decent surplus you have. HMRC is surely the priority debt I would have thought.2
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TheAble said:That's quite a decent surplus you have. HMRC is surely the priority debt I would have thought.
I'd agree.
Is the HMRC debt actually at 0% interest? Is that usual?How's it going, AKA, Nutwatch? - 12 month spends to date = 2.60% of current retirement "pot" (as at end May 2025)0 -
Sea_Shell said:TheAble said:That's quite a decent surplus you have. HMRC is surely the priority debt I would have thought.
I'd agree.
Is the HMRC debt actually at 0% interest? Is that usual?0 -
Are you really paying £180 a month on car licence and insurance on a car worth £1? Have you made a mistake on car value?0
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comeandgo said:Are you really paying £180 a month on car licence and insurance on a car worth £1? Have you made a mistake on car value?0
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