Hey everyone, newbie here!

taka

truthseeker wrote: »

As for the GP...yeh i could muster up the nerve to go i think. It's just the shame attached. The thing is..well it's complicated. If i was living on my own, after your advice, maybe i would claim it now. If i went on IB would i have to tell my family, who i live with? My sister is on IB at the moment, for the same sort of reasons--mental health i guess. I don't have the heart to tell my family i'm in the same position. To be honest i'm not sure how they would take it. I could be completely wrong but they might even freak out and kick me out. I couldn't handle that kind of change at the moment.

Only you can make that decision re GP and IB but there is no shame in being ill. Good luck!

Robflh

Hi truthseeker

I would never give up on someone but at the end of the day, we can only suggest what you could do to help yourself. We cannot make you and neither do we have the right to try to make you do things.

Parents are there to help and guide you as best they can. You may choose to take a different path and fall flat on your face. Whenever that happens, their job, whatever your age, is to pick you up, dust you down and put you back on the right path.

You can disappoint parents, upset them or treat them badly but you would have to do something very, very bad for them to stop loving you.

As I have already said, I have very little if any moral support and a lot more debt then you do. The one thing I wish I could do is to sit down with my parents and tell them what has been happening to me.

Both of my parents were cremated. They did not want to have a grave because someone has to look after it. Eventually they would stop looking after it and it would then be neglected. That means I cannot even go to their grave and talk to them that way.

The best asset you have is your parents. Sit down with them, when everyone else is out of the way and tell them exactly what you told us in your first post. Alternately, sit them both down in front of the computer and have them read this thread from the beginning.

truthseeker_4

Robflh that is very sad. You sound like you have your head screwed on though. You're doing all the right things re your anxiety and your debt whilst i'm just dithering. Part of me does wish i could sit down with my parents and tell them but the situation is complicated. Well my anxiety is probably complicating things more than i need to tbh. But i feel a duty not to tell them.

I phoned the student loan company today. And it looks like i will have to pay the tuition fees i owe upfront :mad: . I deliberately stayed at uni till the date specified so that the fees would go into an interest-fee loan even though my anxiety was killing me but apparently that 'date' was complete rubbish anyway :rotfl: .

When i've finally decided what to do re job or benefits i'll post again. I know i'll just let the fears juggle round in my head until i work out the path of least resistance!! Or until my therapy makes some progress. It is going well i really trust it can help me. But what with these debts and my outgoings i probably need to make a choice before the therapy starts to help.

barron_hard_up

What you don't realise is, that at eighteen you have only lived a little of your life, and it is far from a faliure because it is only just beginning. Just because you fail at something, does not mean you are a faliure.

I AM going to tell you to get rid of the alternitive therapy, you can't afford it. Doctors and their practice nurses are brilliant ( I know, I am married to one) and will do everything they can to help you. You have tried a couple of anti depressants, but there are many others, and different types suit different people. Having two teenagers age 19 and 16, plus a twenty year old, I am all too aware of the youth culture with their mis assumed need for a mobile phone. You might think me an old fart, but you don't need a contract phone, as already advised, get rid of it and if you really need one, get a pay as you go and only use it in emergencies, and get people to call you.

Back to the alternative therapy. The 'therapist' is there for one reason only, to get your £100. Your Doctor can get you help if you are suffering a mental health problem, and no, that doesn't mean you are nuts. I have suffered with severe stress and do know what it's about. But trust me, there are better ways to deal with this.

Get yourself a job and enjoy the experience, work is a great therapy in itself and will raise your self esteem and give you confidence. Plan on getting back to university, it will give you a great start in life. Remember, you were not put here on this earth to fail, go for it. Aim for the top of the ladder and you might only get halfway, but don't aim for anything and you won't get anywhere....