Resignation etiquette

74jax

Emmia said:

TWIGLET1234 said:

GHolmesAdmin said:

Personally I think resignation letters should be short and sweet, you really don't have to give a reason or justify yourself.  

Do we think "See ya f++kers" is enough?...haha

Donkeys years ago I walked out of a job (well known high st. retailer that I'd been working for for a bit under a year) informing them at the end of my shift I wouldn't be returning... It felt absolutely FANTASTIC.

Still does just thinking about it!

The same here (about mine last year). I have zero regrets and even though my notice period was hell, it was better than working without being in notice. 

amandacat

Love reading these replies! I am desperate to change jobs but after 10 years with my employer, I fear the unknown (despite knowing I have to leave as the culture is appalling and it has affected my mental health)
Really hope I get the courage to take another job and finally leave for good!! and hopefully look back at the decision with a smile.
Still the prospect scares the life out of me. 

esmy

TWIGLET1234 said:

GHolmesAdmin said:

Personally I think resignation letters should be short and sweet, you really don't have to give a reason or justify yourself.  

Do we think "See ya f++kers" is enough?...haha

Prior to my 2 line polite resignation letter I wrote a 3 page one, just for me, with a line like that at the end. It felt great.....

Thrugelmir

An hour after you are gone you'll soon be forgotten. 

Dippypud

esmy said:

TWIGLET1234 said:

GHolmesAdmin said:

Personally I think resignation letters should be short and sweet, you really don't have to give a reason or justify yourself.  

Do we think "See ya f++kers" is enough?...haha

Prior to my 2 line polite resignation letter I wrote a 3 page one, just for me, with a line like that at the end. It felt great.....

I'll bet that was refreshing for your mental health ...

getmore4less

TWIGLET1234 said:

Having been employed in a Senior Management role for 15 years with the same employer, I now strongly feel that it is time to move on. I find no passion for the work any more and have lost lots of respect for my employer over recent years due to his behaviour towards me and the fact that he very much takes me for granted. I guess after 15 years, some people just assume that a person is never going to leave regardless how you treat them. I am planning handing in my one month's notice at the end of June. At this stage now, I simply need to get away to protect my mental health. I am very fortunate that I do not need to seek employment elsewhere right away so can take some time figuring out what I want to do. Currently working from home, I'm already stressing about my exit strategy! I obviously need to write a letter, but am concerned about how to hand it to my employer. Email would be preferred option, but probably cowards way out! My employer also works from home currently but does infrequently come to the office to meet with other colleagues. (He lives several miles from the office) Should I ask for a face to face meeting? He will find this unusual, but also what if it doesn't tie in with my dates that I want to hand in and subsequently end my notice. He is the kind of man who will take this very personally and is likely to take offence. It will not be a pleasant experience and nor will the 4 weeks notice period!! 

I thought I had replied but must have forgotten to submit send again.

The highlight is how you feel about the place so its how you resign. "thanks I am leaving"

Don't try to list anything that just gives a list they can pick off to try to get you to stay. also not having a job to go to can make it a little easier for them to try to counter be prepared

The truth is you feel taken for granted so you need to work on how you respond to any promises that they will change.
Helps if you have tried to address the issued before and got no where.
Even watch out for the I need a break being countered with have sabbatical.

Short notice is their problem filling any the gap, if it is a problem they should have fixed the notice and  had other contingency in place.
If you feel you need you could engage in some succession planning if there is anyone that could step up. or document more of what you do if that has not been done, might even be a chance they don't know and will only find out when things stop happening.

Don't rule out in your head the option to  do the odd bit of contract work for them on your terms if they get desperate,.

TELLIT01

esmy said:

TWIGLET1234 said:

GHolmesAdmin said:

Personally I think resignation letters should be short and sweet, you really don't have to give a reason or justify yourself.  

Do we think "See ya f++kers" is enough?...haha

Prior to my 2 line polite resignation letter I wrote a 3 page one, just for me, with a line like that at the end. It felt great.....

I hope you sent to 2 line version.

TELLIT01

It was great when I handed in my notice from my first job.  The business owner's response was "I suppose you want a payrise" as the only way anybody did get more money was by handing in their notice.  He was a little taken aback by my response of "No.  I want to work for somebody with human feelings".

The background was a number of incidents in the 3 1/2 years I was there.

Just a few examples -

He came back from holiday in France and said his 5 year old son had wandered off on the beach and his wife was frantic, telling him to look for the child.  He said his response was that the kid had got himself lost, he could get himself found again.

My brother was in a car crash and we were told he was unlikely to survive.  I called him to let him know and his only reaction was to ask when I would be in.  He called me a couple of hours later to see if he could bring my work round to me.  When I said no his reply was "Why not? He's only your bloody brother". 

Finally.  His secretary, a girl of 19, phoned to say her father had been diagnosed with cancer and told he only had days to live.  She then phoned again a couple of days later to say he had died.  I was in his office at the time and he asked when she would be back in - no preamble or sympathy.  I didn't hear her reply but I did his - "Why not?  He's bloody dead so there's nothing more you can do".

doingitanyway

amandacat said:

Love reading these replies! I am desperate to change jobs but after 10 years with my employer, I fear the unknown (despite knowing I have to leave as the culture is appalling and it has affected my mental health)
Really hope I get the courage to take another job and finally leave for good!! and hopefully look back at the decision with a smile.
Still the prospect scares the life out of me. 

You found the courage to sell your house and move in with your parents. Don't underestimate yourself.

motorguy

TWIGLET1234 said:

krusty101 said:

Would you feel comfortable ringing him and saying ‘I’m about to email you my resignation but thought I would give you the courtesy of a call first’? Given your long relationship I think an email out of the blue is not ideal. If he still chooses to be horrid for your last month it says more about him than it does you. 

Yes this seems to be a good idea. Thanks

Yeah that seems to the way currently.  Phone call or video chat.  Resign verbally, follow it up with a letter / email.