Neighbours showering at 1am - what can I do?

MoonChild91

Skiddaw1 said:

Or Leeds possibly? Failing that, Lancaster?

I'll pop your prize in the post 

Niv

[Deleted User] said:

After many months of my neighbour showering at 1am, I had to go around and ask her to close the curtains.

After many months 

Salemicus

MoonChild91 said:

Hannimal said:

If someone came to complain to me about showering too late, I would tell them in no uncertain terms where to shove their complaint. It's intrusive to complain about this, showering at any time of the day or night is a part of normal life. You'd better get used to it or move elsewhere. I understand it can be a pain but, for example, women who get UTIs should wee and shower after penetrative intercourse, someone might have IBS or similar problems and want to shower after using the loo. Someone might just need to shower because they are sweaty and smelly. It is really not something you need to be justifying to a neighbour. 

How is it any more intrusive to complain about the noise they're making than it is for them to keep me up 4 nights a week? I've already said it isn't just the shower but also the slamming, shouting, and singing that goes along with it - which certainly isn't a 'normal part of life' for most people at 2 in the morning, so I don't understand the need for such an aggressive response.

As has been explained to you countless times in this thread, externalities are reciprocal. You are saying that their showering/singing at night is preventing you from getting a good night's sleep, but your solution is for your good night's sleep to prevent them from showering/singing at night. You seem to have an inbuilt assumption that your enjoyment of your home should trump their enjoyment of theirs. What makes your view of what's a "normal part of life" binding on them? Or is it just because you're special little you?

You come across, in this thread, as rude and entitled. A lot is lost on the internet, and perhaps, in real life, you are charm personified, but it wouldn't surprise me if your neighbours did not feel inclined to make your life easier. It may be that if you took a more emollient attitude, they would show more consideration to you.

Skiddaw1

MoonChild91 said:

Skiddaw1 said:

Or Leeds possibly? Failing that, Lancaster?

I'll pop your prize in the post 

Hurrah!!! Hope the prize isn't used ear-plugs!! 

@Salemicus, I don't think the OP comes across as rude or entitled. As has been said, it isn't the showering that's the issue- it's the lack of consideration that goes with it. A shower is one thing- our previous neighbours often showered late at night- but someone singing loudly and banging doors in the early hours is a different kettle of fish entirely IMO. 

Skiddaw1

moneysavinghero said:

Skiddaw1 said:

Or Leeds possibly? Failing that, Lancaster?

Can't see Lancaster having 3 uni's

Lancaster Uni, Lancaster & Morecombe College, Uni of Cumbria (the Lancaster campus)....

lookstraightahead

Op, they're students. You're living in a student area - like living in a room on campus.  Their lifestyle is different from yours, their waking hours are different. Sometimes day is night, night is day. 
i moved from a main road as the noise was constant - but I couldn't ask the council to stop night traffic. 
My DD came home during the lockdown and honestly her bedtime pattern was bizarre. she was having baths at 2am, toast at 4am, bed at 6. Getting up at midday and working till midnight.

Scotbot

teachfast said:

Natbag said:

Showering at 2am is acceptable, but slamming doors, singing and shouting into other rooms at your housemates when you don't live in a detached property isn't. It's selfish, especially when they have been previously asked to be more considerate of their neighbours. Sadly there isn't much you can do if they're of the attitude that they will do what they like when they like, other than wait for them to move out or move out yourself.

Or play your favourite tunes at 0730 when they are trying to sleep off their hangovers.

Sod the favourite tunes go for Verdi's Requiem or gospel music and make it 6.30 am

MoonChild91

lookstraightahead said:

Op, they're students. You're living in a student area - like living in a room on campus.  Their lifestyle is different from yours, their waking hours are different. Sometimes day is night, night is day. 
i moved from a main road as the noise was constant - but I couldn't ask the council to stop night traffic. 
My DD came home during the lockdown and honestly her bedtime pattern was bizarre. she was having baths at 2am, toast at 4am, bed at 6. Getting up at midday and working till midnight.

I don't really think that asking someone to stop slamming doors and shouting in the middle of the night is comparable to stopping traffic noise?

I also don't agree with what you seem to suggest - which is that anyone living in a 'student area' should be expected to put up with the noise and antisocial behaviour that often goes along with it. I'm lucky that I will (hopefully sooner rather than later) be able to move away from this area, but there are families and older people who have been here all their lives who aren't in that position. It's unfair to suggest that the only response to students' behaviour is that people should move and uproot themselves, rather than them learn how to live around other people. Would people make the same suggestion if my neighbours were working professionals, probably not. 

lookstraightahead

MoonChild91 said:

lookstraightahead said:

Op, they're students. You're living in a student area - like living in a room on campus.  Their lifestyle is different from yours, their waking hours are different. Sometimes day is night, night is day. 
i moved from a main road as the noise was constant - but I couldn't ask the council to stop night traffic. 
My DD came home during the lockdown and honestly her bedtime pattern was bizarre. she was having baths at 2am, toast at 4am, bed at 6. Getting up at midday and working till midnight.

I don't really think that asking someone to stop slamming doors and shouting in the middle of the night is comparable to stopping traffic noise?

I also don't agree with what you seem to suggest - which is that anyone living in a 'student area' should be expected to put up with the noise and antisocial behaviour that often goes along with it. I'm lucky that I will (hopefully sooner rather than later) be able to move away from this area, but there are families and older people who have been here all their lives who aren't in that position. It's unfair to suggest that the only response to students' behaviour is that people should move and uproot themselves, rather than them learn how to live around other people. Would people make the same suggestion if my neighbours were working professionals, probably not. 

Ok well good luck with sorting it out. 

teachfast

Scotbot said:

teachfast said:

Natbag said:

Showering at 2am is acceptable, but slamming doors, singing and shouting into other rooms at your housemates when you don't live in a detached property isn't. It's selfish, especially when they have been previously asked to be more considerate of their neighbours. Sadly there isn't much you can do if they're of the attitude that they will do what they like when they like, other than wait for them to move out or move out yourself.

Or play your favourite tunes at 0730 when they are trying to sleep off their hangovers.

Sod the favourite tunes go for Verdi's Requiem or gospel music and make it 6.30 am

Verdi's Requiem is one of my favourite tunes!

If we're blasting classical then Rachmaninov would be my choice. And 0630 is absolutely perfect for Piano Concerto No. 2.