My partner hates his job

Sncjw

He is probably burnt out with doing 12 hour shifts which is half your day. Then think of commute time, prepping tea, showering, getting ready for bed and for work and then get enough sleep. Then you add overtime to it. Plus feeling like you don't get time off with working weekends..he is likely to be burnt out. Also doing these hours with a task you don't like doesn't help.

Plus the pressure of the debts and the stress of selling and moving house its alot to take on.. 

[Deleted User]

Agree with comeandgo. Always a way these days, Lenders now are a lot better. I would sooner pay interest only and extend loan term for a breather. (2 weeks break not to be under estimated.) If trying for another job then might see how lucky he has been / is? Sometimes this has worked for me and been the light though I'm not one of those logic non driven by the heart types - some are really good at weighing up pro's and cons of new job. Do get him help - unhappiness kills. Desperate people do desperate things.

Marcon

sunflower1980 said:

My partner has been in his job 8 years. He does 12 hour shifts, nights and days and he absolutely hates it.
The claims that his manager unfairly gives him the worst jobs even though he’s the most experienced but he cannot talk to his manager about it as he is unapproachable. He hasn’t been tried.

He also has to work weekends which he hates and also they have started to force them to do overtime to cover sickness which he also hates.

He just doesn’t want to be there anymore. He keeps hinting at taking time off work because he feels like he’s close to a breakdown but I don’t see how this will help as he had time off at Christmas and when he went back he felt twice as bad.

He cannot swap jobs because he needs the money to pay off some big loans he got years ago and we are in the process of selling our house and buying a new one so don’t want to jeopardise the mortgage by moving jobs or having loads of sickness.
I’ve tried listening and consoling him but to be honest I struggle to do this because I don’t understand why he doesn’t enjoy the job. Is he just scared of hard work?

I’ve told him to ring a help line to talk if I’m not supporting him but he shot that down. I just need him to go to work and support me until his loans are paid off and he can move jobs.

I don’t know how else to support him...

Best way to support him is probably to delay the house move. Less than a week ago you still hadn't got a date for exchange, so maybe now is the time to put him first rather than your wish for a new home and all the costs which will inevitably go with it.

gettingtheresometime

Please what ever you decide don't consolidate the loans. It's very very rarely a good idea.

Tahlullah.H

Wow.  Just think about him and his mental wellbeing for a bit.  You have a home and a job.  Good health is difficult to recover once lost, and the trust can be lost as well if the support is not given when needed.  It sounds as if you are both stressed and are not hearing each other.  Perhaps take some time to listen and find a way forward together, supporting each other.