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Ex wants to sell our property

Ex wants to sell our jointly owned property.  I live abroad.  The property has been rented out (without my knowledge) and he and his wife are named as landlords,  He doesn't have Consent to Let from the Lender, no gas safety cert, no electric safety cert, no EPC, no buildings insurance, no valid tenancy agreement.  He doesn't carry out repairs properly.  Tenants left in middle of winter for 48 days without hearing or hot water when boiler broke and they had to collect rainwater from leak in roof for five years.  The tenants are elderly, disabled, vulnerable and in receipt of welfare benefits.  They have lived there for nearly eight years and the council have installed £10k+ disabled wet room and downstairs WC.    I'm concerned for them. He hasn't visited or inspected the house for almost 8 years.

I don't want to sell, my ex has no money to apply for an Order to Sell.  

Any ideas?
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  • theoretica
    theoretica Posts: 12,691 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper Photogenic
    I don't want to sell,
    Why don't you?
    But a banker, engaged at enormous expense,
    Had the whole of their cash in his care.
    Lewis Carroll
  • The Lender was unaware that my ex had let our property. As a joint-owner he would have needed my signature on application for Consent to Let. I have informed the Lender of the situation.

    My ex insists I pay for any and all house costs incurred over the last ten years (he claims he spent over £30k but has only provided proof of payment for one £300 repair). 

    He doesn't understand joint-ownership.
     It doesn't matter who pays what, when the property sells it's shared 50:50.  He wants me to sign a contract accepting £10k only and he keeps the rest.  

    So selling is not straight forward.

    Any more thoughts?
  • JGB1955
    JGB1955 Posts: 4,004 Forumite
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    Have you been paying the mortgage? If not accepting £10K to walk away seems a bargain.
    #2 Saving for Christmas 2024 - £1 a day challenge. £325 of £366
  • My ex agreed to cover mortgage when I left and I would help him financially.  He asked for six payments, I transferred the money.  His g/f then moved in and they covered the mortgage, then he rented the property and the tenants more than covered the cost of the mortgage.

    He hadn't contacted me for 8 years.


  • GDB2222
    GDB2222 Posts: 26,939 Forumite
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    Some basic questions:

    How much is outstanding on the mortgage?
    How much was outstanding when you split up?
    How much is the house worth?



    No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?
  • £112,00 outstanding when I left.  £118,000 outstanding now.
    House valued at £160,000 - as far as I know


  • MFWannabe
    MFWannabe Posts: 2,561 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts Name Dropper Combo Breaker
    I’d take the 10K and walk away 
    although I’d have separated properly 9 years ago 

    MFW 2026 #50

    Mortgage:

    04/04/26: £33,500 

    07/03/26: £34,418.15

    16/01/26: £56,794.25
    02/01/26: £60,223.17

    12/08/25: Mortgage: £62,500.00
    12/06/25: Mortgage: £65,000.00
    07/03/25: Mortgage: £67,000.00
    18/01/25: Mortgage: £68,500.14
    27/12/24: Mortgage: £69,278.38 

    Savings: £20,000




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