Money Moral Dilemma: Should my housemate repay me for looking after her cat?

MSE_Kelvin Posts: 340 MSE Staff
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edited 20 October 2020 at 4:39PM in Pets & pet care
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My housemate adopted an older cat. I didn't agree as we're both busy people, and told her I wouldn't be responsible for its care. But I ended up looking after it while she was away, and began buying it food, toys etc. I bonded with the cat and, now my housemate's moving out, I've taken over formal ownership, paying to have its microchip updated etc. With vet bills and other costs, I've spent over £1,000. Should I ask my housemate to contribute, considering the cat was supposed to be hers?

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  • £1000 in vet bills??? Regardless you’ve adopted it so need to take the rough with the smooth I’m afraid.
  • That is all part of the responsibility of "taking ownership". If you adopted a child, you wouldn't ask the biological parents to contribute because the child was supposed to be theirs. You've done a wonderful  thing stepping into the role - just take comfort and pride in that. 
  • No afraid that won’t do. You can’t take ownership and then ask for money! Welcome to the world of cat owners.
  • Neil49
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    No way. You should either pay the costs otherwise have had it rehomed as soon as she left. 
  • Ridiculous amount of money to spend on a cat - but you chose to do so. Your cost.
  • You say you have bonded with the cat. Welcome to the world of pet ownership. Enjoy the pleasure of having a pet, which also comes with financial responsibilities. 
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