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No one knows I’m leaving

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  • AskAsk
    AskAsk Posts: 3,048 Forumite
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    if he says don't tell anyone, then don't tell anyone.  just leave, who cares.  not your problem.
  • becksterb said:
    I guess I just need advice as to how to best handle the situation. It’s not something I’ve faced before and it’s all a little odd.
    Imagine if you didn’t have any colleagues, that customers were the only people you spoke to? Would you really want to sound unprofessional as to be saying yay I am getting out of here so publicly! 
    Imagine if there was ever a time when seeing off a leaving colleague and you felt kind of demotivated as the left behind one.
    You would not like our office - we don’t even tell each other till it is upon us when we’re taking annual leave!
    It isn’t so odd, I remember in home care being asked not to tell the clients I tended to I wouldn’t be back for the next call after choosing to leave, but it takes all sorts, I had an Employer one time who’s wish it was to tell the office I sat in even in a sole role, I was going when there probably wasn’t that much need to. I had to follow that command even though I felt differently.
  • Maybe the boss wants to give a different story as to why you've left, to your colleagues after you've left.
  • Why not send everyone a nice friendly email just before you leave for the last time. I knew someone who sent a nasty one in such a situation but that's another story.
  • Sandtree
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    Whilst you are an employee do what they ask of you.

    Personally I don't like the whole leaving thing, particularly as a contractor, and so generally try to slip away into the night rather than make a big thing of it.

    On the day of leaving I set an out of office message saying who queries should be redirected to as I've left the organisation. After I have gone (or as my nearly last action before going) I send an email out to those people I want to thank for their help or potentially stay in touch with from my own personal email address, then hand in my laptop/surface, ID badge and go to the pub.

    You could always delay the email going out by a few working days so its already no longer a secret you're not there any more and in these days the pub is off the cards anyway.

    On a handover doc? If you've got nothing better to do then you could write one if you want and just email it your boss so they can use it or delete as they see fit.
  • 74jax
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    I left this summer - my choosing like you, and we were all remote working.
    I had a 3 month notice period and said nothing for 2 months as it seemed so far away (and I was getting counter offers constantly I felt really bad seeming as thought I couldn't wait to leave.....)  I ended up updating Linkedin saying something like '2 thirds through my notice period and ........' and tied it in to something else - so it wasn't a 'notice' as such, more it was added onto another post, although I hadn't categorically been told I couldn't tell people I'd be leaving.
    I only emailed 2 people that I particularly wanted to know, I'm relatively private and couldn't care less what people thought, but it does seem odd that I didn't get to say goodbye in person.......... but once my last day came, I really didn't care.........
    Forty and fabulous, well that's what my cards say....
  • Savvy_Sue
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    Sandtree said:
    You could always delay the email going out by a few working days so its already no longer a secret you're not there any more 
    Except that if I delay sending an email, it doesn't go out at my chosen time unless I'm actually logged in, which hopefully the OP won't be able to do. 

    That's Outlook. Other email systems may be different. 
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  • Thrugelmir
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    becksterb said:
    I work in recruitment so I’m expected to answer phone calls and texts regardless of the time they come in. Sorry if I worded it in a confusing manner. 
    Switch your phone off once the working day ends. 
  • Sandtree
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    Savvy_Sue said:
    Sandtree said:
    You could always delay the email going out by a few working days so its already no longer a secret you're not there any more 
    Except that if I delay sending an email, it doesn't go out at my chosen time unless I'm actually logged in, which hopefully the OP won't be able to do. 

    That's Outlook. Other email systems may be different. 
    As I said though, I would send my goodbye email from my personal email not my work email therefore if someone replies after I've left I still get to see what they say and it gives my email address to people who either may want to keep in touch or may want tor each out to me in the future about other work.
  • moneysavinghero
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    edited 16 October 2020 at 3:53PM
    If you want to tell everyone, tell everyone. Worst that could happen is you get fired, but you are leaving anyway.
    Your boss does not own you, however much they like to feel that they do.

    Don't worry about the handover - that is not your responsibility.
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