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Estranged executor

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My father died 3 years ago, we were a very close family, 1 older sister, our mum was the one who took care of finances, mum & dad had saved all their life to leave an inheritance to leave us and their 3 grandchildren, the amount was 50,000, my elder sister who is high up in a position of trust in local government advised mum that the money in her account would mess up her pension an get her in trouble, she advised mum to give her the money and she put it in 5 separate building society accounts in her name not mums, she also has the cards for these accounts.
She then took mum to a solicitor after dad's death and make a will and naming her as executor and giving her power of attorney and access to her bank accounts, one of which had 10,000 for her funeral and other money to clear and bills on her death, as well as mum's saving accounts, I was never told the amounts in those accounts. 
Since dad died my sister pushed myself and mum's granddaughter out and made it impossible to contact mum, in Jan we were told mum had cancer an had surgery but we weren't needed, we called there, phoned, I wrote letters, cards and sent flowers ( I was having surgery for my own cancer the day we found out about mum) it took me weeks to get better then lockdown happened, still no contact made, we were then told by a distant relative mum had died, my sister didn't tell us, we were not told about family cars, flowers ect even the wake was a secret, we were treated like strangers, It came to light mum had been in hospital a long time and my sister dealt with her mail and never passed on out letters and cards ect, I can only assume she told mum we didn't care, I know the solicitors where the will was made 2 years ago but no proof of inheritance she has, my question is what do I do? She's since cleared out mum and dad's house of everything and handed they keys back to the housing, I feel this was all premeditated by her to block us out financially, with no mention in the will of money and she advised mum not to 

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  • xylophone
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    You can check on whether the will was probated.
    https://www.gov.uk/search-will-probate
  • xylophone said:
    You can check on whether the will was probated.
    https://www.gov.uk/search-will-probate
    Nothing showing on there unfortunately 
  • Phillybub said:
    xylophone said:
    You can check on whether the will was probated.
    https://www.gov.uk/search-will-probate
    Nothing showing on there unfortunately 
    As the estate appears to be cash only, it is likely probate was not required. Unfortunately without proof that your sister has managed to obtain the whole estate through undo influence there is not a lot you can do.

    Do you know if your mother was on any means tested benefits such as pension credit?
  • Phillybub said:
    xylophone said:
    You can check on whether the will was probated.
    https://www.gov.uk/search-will-probate
    Nothing showing on there unfortunately 
    As the estate appears to be cash only, it is likely probate was not required. Unfortunately without proof that your sister has managed to obtain the whole estate through undo influence there is not a lot you can do.

    Do you know if your mother was on any means tested benefits such as pension credit?
    Yes she was, she was 85, hence my sister telling her the government would go into her bank see the amount and stop her benefits ect so mum panicked, as my sister is involved in protection of vulnerable people she knew what to say to scare mum into handing 50,000 over without any proof, although there is a paper trail to 1 of the accounts she holds as she deposited 500 to my daughters account a few years ago, she had taken it from her inheritance building society account to her personal account an then to my daughters, she is basically sitting on thus money in lots of different building society accounts 
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