Selling stress - is this what it is meant to be like?

doingitanyway

lillypoo said:

Ornais
i feel the same
i wish we had never lived here. i used to love the house but the worlds worst neighbour has been one side of us for about 15 years and they alone are making my property worth about 50000 less than it would be if they werent there. the house is for sale and i feel like it will never happen or if it does happen it will be at a price so low that i wont be able to afford to buy anywhere else.

i keep seeing properties on right move that i fall in love with but ( despite what crashy time says) they are selling within 1 to 14 days of going on the market
unlike you though , i dont have family ( husband passed away ), its just me trying to deal with this alone, and sometimes i do wonder if ill get through it with my sanity

the forum does help 

good luck anyway, i hope it all works out for you

Sending you a hug. I am in your situation too. Hang on in there. We can do it

Falafels

doingitanyway said:

lillypoo said:

Ornais
i feel the same
i wish we had never lived here. i used to love the house but the worlds worst neighbour has been one side of us for about 15 years and they alone are making my property worth about 50000 less than it would be if they werent there. the house is for sale and i feel like it will never happen or if it does happen it will be at a price so low that i wont be able to afford to buy anywhere else.

i keep seeing properties on right move that i fall in love with but ( despite what crashy time says) they are selling within 1 to 14 days of going on the market
unlike you though , i dont have family ( husband passed away ), its just me trying to deal with this alone, and sometimes i do wonder if ill get through it with my sanity

the forum does help 

good luck anyway, i hope it all works out for you

Sending you a hug. I am in your situation too. Hang on in there. We can do it

Can I have one too?

Caramac

I agree not being in control is stressful. I find it so frustrating being caught in the miscommunication between solicitors.

lillypoo

doingitanyway said:

lillypoo said:

Ornais
i feel the same
i wish we had never lived here. i used to love the house but the worlds worst neighbour has been one side of us for about 15 years and they alone are making my property worth about 50000 less than it would be if they werent there. the house is for sale and i feel like it will never happen or if it does happen it will be at a price so low that i wont be able to afford to buy anywhere else.

i keep seeing properties on right move that i fall in love with but ( despite what crashy time says) they are selling within 1 to 14 days of going on the market
unlike you though , i dont have family ( husband passed away ), its just me trying to deal with this alone, and sometimes i do wonder if ill get through it with my sanity

the forum does help 

good luck anyway, i hope it all works out for you

Sending you a hug. I am in your situation too. Hang on in there. We can do it

: ) thank you
a hug always helps
x

lillypoo

Falafels said:

doingitanyway said:

lillypoo said:

Ornais
i feel the same
i wish we had never lived here. i used to love the house but the worlds worst neighbour has been one side of us for about 15 years and they alone are making my property worth about 50000 less than it would be if they werent there. the house is for sale and i feel like it will never happen or if it does happen it will be at a price so low that i wont be able to afford to buy anywhere else.

i keep seeing properties on right move that i fall in love with but ( despite what crashy time says) they are selling within 1 to 14 days of going on the market
unlike you though , i dont have family ( husband passed away ), its just me trying to deal with this alone, and sometimes i do wonder if ill get through it with my sanity

the forum does help 

good luck anyway, i hope it all works out for you

Sending you a hug. I am in your situation too. Hang on in there. We can do it

Can I have one too?

Falafels said:

doingitanyway said:

lillypoo said:

Ornais
i feel the same
i wish we had never lived here. i used to love the house but the worlds worst neighbour has been one side of us for about 15 years and they alone are making my property worth about 50000 less than it would be if they werent there. the house is for sale and i feel like it will never happen or if it does happen it will be at a price so low that i wont be able to afford to buy anywhere else.

i keep seeing properties on right move that i fall in love with but ( despite what crashy time says) they are selling within 1 to 14 days of going on the market
unlike you though , i dont have family ( husband passed away ), its just me trying to deal with this alone, and sometimes i do wonder if ill get through it with my sanity

the forum does help 

good luck anyway, i hope it all works out for you

Sending you a hug. I am in your situation too. Hang on in there. We can do it

Can I have one too?

if youre not fussy you can have one from me

Falafels

lillypoo said:

Falafels said:

doingitanyway said:

lillypoo said:

Ornais
i feel the same
i wish we had never lived here. i used to love the house but the worlds worst neighbour has been one side of us for about 15 years and they alone are making my property worth about 50000 less than it would be if they werent there. the house is for sale and i feel like it will never happen or if it does happen it will be at a price so low that i wont be able to afford to buy anywhere else.

i keep seeing properties on right move that i fall in love with but ( despite what crashy time says) they are selling within 1 to 14 days of going on the market
unlike you though , i dont have family ( husband passed away ), its just me trying to deal with this alone, and sometimes i do wonder if ill get through it with my sanity

the forum does help 

good luck anyway, i hope it all works out for you

Sending you a hug. I am in your situation too. Hang on in there. We can do it

Can I have one too?

Falafels said:

doingitanyway said:

lillypoo said:

Ornais
i feel the same
i wish we had never lived here. i used to love the house but the worlds worst neighbour has been one side of us for about 15 years and they alone are making my property worth about 50000 less than it would be if they werent there. the house is for sale and i feel like it will never happen or if it does happen it will be at a price so low that i wont be able to afford to buy anywhere else.

i keep seeing properties on right move that i fall in love with but ( despite what crashy time says) they are selling within 1 to 14 days of going on the market
unlike you though , i dont have family ( husband passed away ), its just me trying to deal with this alone, and sometimes i do wonder if ill get through it with my sanity

the forum does help 

good luck anyway, i hope it all works out for you

Sending you a hug. I am in your situation too. Hang on in there. We can do it

Can I have one too?

if youre not fussy you can have one from me

Yes please!

Angela_D_3

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Lover_of_Lycra said:

Comms69 said:

ameliarate said:

Comms69 said:

comeandgo said:

It is normal, it's got something to do with the awful system that England has and the only way it will change is if people complain to MPs and get things changed but nobody does.  It's not only buyers who can walk away, you as a seller can withdraw your property from the market right up until exchange.

System is much better than elsewhere

Is it? Such as? 

I cant think of anywhere better. 

Get to exchange, bam lower the price by an extra 2-3% - perfect.

Have you ever bought or sold a property because it doesn’t sound like it? 

It sounds unlikely !
That type of conduct will see the vendor refusing to sell to them, how arrogant and not the way to do business 😣 
The Estate Agent will flag this buyer as undesirable amongst the local Agents and he/she will be treated accordingly !

Ha ha ha no they won’t EA’s will take money from anyone especially funny and satisfying if they’ve screwed your competition first 

snowcat75

Mickey666 said:

I think the stress is mainly due to not being in total control and at the mercy of other people’s behaviour, which as is abundantly clear from the posts on here, is often pretty bad and inconsiderate.

One way to reduce the stress is not trying to buy and sell at the same time, though I know that’s not always possible.  Another thing that has worked well for me is to establish contact with buyer/seller and deal with them directly if possible.  In my experience this makes people less likely to ‘misbehave’ if they can’t hide behind the estate agent. When I bought my third house, I first offered below asking and it was refused and the seller explained that he really needed the asking price.  The following day, we met again, I offered the asking price, he agreed and we shook hands and the sale proceeded ok.  I was subsequently told by the estate agent that he later refused a higher offer from someone else who had delayed their offer while investigating planning potential.  Would the seller have honoured my offer if we hadn’t met and shook hands and dealt only through the EA?  Who knows, but I like to think it made a difference.

This^^^
It also stops the solicitors from playing silly buggers, and means you can potentially get many of the small query's ironed out without them taking a week to email questions back and fourth.

On my recent sale the buyers solicitor tried to say it was my onward purchase slowing progress, The buyer was very quick to point out he was in weekly contact and knew I hadn't lived in the property for over 2 years and there was no onward purchase!

Suseka97

We've had an offer on our house for a few weeks now and were quite happy to exchange contact details with our buyers from the outset.  They didn't have their house on the market at the time, but found a buyer themselves pretty soon after - although we were happy to wait.  That was because we developed a rapport with the buyers, a lovely couple and we even accepted an offer under the sale price.  They came across very genuine and trustworthy and as has been said, getting to know the buyers made a difference.

We've now made an offer on our, hopefully to be ' new home', and hope for the same experience - will try and get direct contact details a little further on.  If it comes to it we are prepared to sell and rent because I personally feel it'll take the stress out of trying to exchange and complete in the chain.

What I'm trying to say here is the buying and selling process is without doubt a stressful one and the only way to get through is to accept that you are not in control of it and look towards the end game. I'm sure eventually you will get there  

Hannimal

I have been in direct contact with the seller (property through purple bricks which has actually been excellent) and it has been super helpful, I think for both parties.