Dads died

lynnielou69

Hi, my dad died, my brother and myself fell out with him as he started dating a family member.  

He moved in with her and rented his own house out. She has everything belonging to my dad and won’t tell us anything. My brother has been round to her house but she refuses to talk to him. She has even been rooting In loft in our family home. 

What can we do, we don’t even no if he has a will etc etc 

Teapot55

I think solicitors sometimes do a free half-hour initial appointment? Find one that you & your brother can visit together. They can tell you what your next steps should be. 

xylophone

If there is no will
https://www.gov.uk/inherits-someone-dies-without-will

Have you checked the Land Registry for details of ownership of your father's house?

https://www.gov.uk/get-information-about-property-and-land/search-the-register

If your father is sole proprietor, no transfer can be registered without a Grant of ProbateLetters of Administration.

If there is a will, an executor will be named.

If there is no will, you can apply for Letters of Administration.
https://www.co-oplegalservices.co.uk/media-centre/articles-jan-apr-2018/how-to-get-a-letter-of-administration/

Brynsam

lynnielou69 said:

Hi, my dad died, my brother and myself fell out with him as he started dating a family member.  

He moved in with her and rented his own house out. She has everything belonging to my dad and won’t tell us anything. My brother has been round to her house but she refuses to talk to him. She has even been rooting In loft in our family home. 

What can we do, we don’t even no if he has a will etc etc 

No great surprise you fell out if you and your brother tried to control his personal life.  He's an adult and his choice of partner is his concern - and she is likely to be grieving as much, if not more, than his offspring now he has died.

Nothing you can do until you know if there's a will, but given the above, you may find his new love is the sole beneficiary, assuming he got round to making a (new) will.

xylophone

No great surprise you fell out if you and your brother tried to control his personal life.  He's an adult and his choice of partner is his concern - and she is likely to be grieving as much, if not more, than his offspring now he has died.

This is completely uncalled for - you have no idea of the personal circumstances or feelings of those involved.

gwynlas

Sorry for your loss. is there another member of the family who can act as an intermediary with your dad's partner?

McKneff

Not uncalled for at all tbh.
Somebody needed to say it to you. 

Tealblue

lynnielou69 said:

Hi, my dad died, my brother and myself fell out with him as he started dating a family member.  

He moved in with her and rented his own house out. She has everything belonging to my dad and won’t tell us anything. My brother has been round to her house but she refuses to talk to him. She has even been rooting In loft in our family home. 

What can we do, we don’t even no if he has a will etc etc 

But it isn't your family home - it belonged to your dad and by your own admission you and your brother fell out with him because he dated someone you didn't approve of. It's hardly surprising that she doesn't want to talk to your brother now. If your father's house has been left to her, she has every right to 'root in the loft'. Do you know if they married before his death?

MalMonroe

Sorry for your loss and also for your estrangement. Your dad chose to live his own life instead of the one you wanted for him. His partner probably made him really happy. That, in turn, would have made me happy, had that been my dad.

Anyway, his partner is probably now really upset and grieving and the last thing she needs is her partner's children coming round to find out what they're going to be getting. No wonder she didn't want to speak to your brother. 

If you are entitled to anything, you'll get to hear about it in due course but these things take time. 

Your dad obviously loved his partner - can't you try to afford her some respect now she's lost him? Cut her some slack. You'll get what you deserve, all in good time.

TBagpuss

How long had he and his partner been together?  Is there any change that they got married and didn't tell you? 
Is this house still rented out? 
If so, are there agents involved? 
The first thing is to find out whether there is a will - if there isn't, then as his children you can apply for letters of administration in relation to his estate and (assuming he was not married) the estate would go equally to all of his children.
If there is anyone such as a family member or mutual friend who you could speak to then it would be reasonable to ask them to ask his partner whether she is aware of his having made a will, and if so, whether she knows where it is or who he made it through. (It's not in her interests to hide a will as she would have no claims under an intestacy, so while she might not have said anything yet, perhaps because she is still grieving, if she does know anything about a will it is likely to be in her interests to say so)

Flugelhorn

Agree with TBagpuss - also just worth mentioning that the property insurance may have lapsed on death and needs to be checked on - also need to find out where the people renting the property are paying rent to - could be an agent, could be Dad's partner