Divorce, lawyers - when to quit ?

Angela_D_3

My my ex has lied through his teeth on oath to progress our case as far as he has, but legally he is not wrong.  I have tried to purchase the family home but due to covid the product I want to use has been withdrawn.   My only argument was that he refused to sell it to me and now he’s right but only due to his delays which the court does not accept.  

However I am right with regards to his lies. 

The final hearing over ran and the judge has asked for written submissions.  A further £5,000. 

My bill is already £8,000 if I lose I will pay ex’s cost of £14,000 and be evicted from the family home so that he may dispose of it for below market value. 

Would you twist or stick 

Fireflyaway

I'd probably just go of my own free will and set myself up independently, even if it is in a modest way to begin with. Might seem defeatist but in a way it's not giving your ex the satisfaction of a fight. It's showing you don't need him, don't care and are strong enough to do your own thing. I'm sure many would not agree with me! Why should you walk away from something you have invested in etc? I just hate conflict and would rather move on sooner than later. 

Angela_D_3

I don’t mind a bit of conflict ☺️

It’s more the money 

pickledonionspaceraider

If it is about the money alone, that is up to you, but it is a huge gamble that could leave you in a terrible position, and no one can tell you for sure, which way this may go in court. 

Do you have a 'Plan B' in place, should you end up evicted and with a huge legal bill?

You ask whether other posters would continue with this, and my gut feeling is, as volatile as this all is - If it were me, I feel I would want a fresh start, away from the family home and the shared memories together. I wouldn't want to live in a home that I had built with a partner ad live with the spectre of a failed marriage and all those hopes & dreams you once had.
I'd try and walk away with as much dignity as I could muster, under the circumstances of reasons for divorce. If they have hurt you previously, you don't need to give them the change to hurt you again (in court) 

Also for me, I would struggle with an ongoing uncertainty court case and the housing implications, it would run down my mental health to a point where I wouldn't care about the bricks and mortar anymore.

Angela_D_3

I think that makes a lot of sense.  I will do me and if any proceeds of the sale come my way great,  if not I will still have a roof over my head.