need help and advice

maddog263

hi all, im a newbie at this sort of thing, never used forums before so bare with me. im in a mess completely. ive just come out of a 2 year relationship which has totally destroyed me completely (god i loved her, still do but its over) i have a roof over my head but thats it, just a chair, and a rug. my problem here is i had everything and now ive nothing. hard to adjust. i lost my job through covid19 and not on benefits as theres a backlog. i dont know where to turn. ive no food at all and tried the food banks but none close to me, ive tried loan companies but all refusing me, some say my acc and sort code dont work but they do {Details removed by Forum Team}. ive family around me but im the black sheep of the family, none talk to me, you see i never agreed with what they did when i was young (sexually abused) so we drifted and i have looked out for myself since i was 15. just feels like the whole world has come to an end, i ask myself "whats the point in this anymore" where do i go from here? all i do is sit and cry all day, hurt so much. if anyone could point me in the right direction that would be great.....thanks guys for reading. stay safe 

DCFC79

Dont go and get a loan, it wont help.
Yes there may be a backlog for benefits but get yourself registered, it will put food on the table.
There are charities you could speak to, christians against poverty or capuk is 1, salvation is another.

MalMonroe

Please don't put your bank account and sort code on here. I've already worked out what bank and where it is. (Obviously not going to do anything with the info though.) You are obviously depressed, and that is very understandable. You could do worse than contact your GP first thing tomorrow. Or call the NHS helpline number 111 tonight but they would probably just advise to call your GP tomorrow anyway. You do need help but I think you are just too depressed right now to do anything about it. The good thing is, you've taken the first major step by putting your story on here. Get some help from your GP and then you could also try phoning DWP and telling them you have nothing. They can usually give people an emergency loan while they are waiting for benefits.  If you can be bothered, click on here  https://www.gov.uk/universal-credit/other-financial-support  and click on this one https://www.trusselltrust.org/get-help/find-a-foodbank/  to find a foodbank near you. There IS help out there, and you can get it. Good luck and remember the only way is up. You can do it. I did it (few years ago now but I was in a very bad place then), and you can too.